I need help with something. There is a shy, reserved guy that I like a lot. We get along alright. But - I want him to see me as more than a friend, but I want to do so and not make it look like I want him. If I'm obvious about my crush and let him know I like him, I could endanger our friendship.
I just want to find a way to make him notice me a little differently, that way I will know it is safe to show my liking of him a bit more. I don't want to do anything that will make him think I have a crush on him. I don't want to scare him back into his shell.
The thing is, dating and girls is not on his mind. He's not like other guys. He's very proper, polite and gentlemanly. He's probably never watched porn or looked at a swimsuit magazine in his life (he's not gay lol I know this).
He's a really sweet guy... But, I KNOW he doesn't see me as anything other than a good friend because he doesn't seek me out. He has never called unless it regards business, never messaged me, never sent me an email or anything on his own initiative. It's always ME who contacts him first.
And when we ARE together, it's just as friends. We talk, laugh and our energy together feels great.... But it's just friendship for him.
Do you guys have any good tips for me to try and find out if it is even possible for him to like me more?
If I try it and it doesn't work, that's OK. I'm "OK" staying friends if that's what he truly wants. Remember, I'm looking for a way to find out if he can like me before I even show him I like him as more than a friend. He can't know intil I'm sure it won't ruin us. I want to handle this with care.
I just want to test him before I let him know. Just to be safe with our hearts.
Thank you.
P.S. if it helps, he seems more interested in his work at times... How can I make him WANT to talk to me (without putting on a false personality. I want to be myself and not pretend just so he likes me) and stop what he's doing?