Dating when you're tired

[Boy]

Hi.

I'm in a relationship for just over a month (it's my first), and everything is going great so far.
We're dating every weekend, as I work and study during the weekdays.

Some of you might think that dating just twice a week in the weekend is pretty little, however to me it's a lot, as I was used to not dating at all before I met my girlfriend.

The thing is that sometimes I'd feel satisfied with having a single date in the weekend, but I'm not feeling too comfortable with telling her that I'm too tired for dating again, so I just go out with her even though I'm tired.

What do you think of that?

Have you ever been there?

And, do you think that dating just during the weekends is too little?

Thanks.

[vashti]

Relationships are all about learning negotiation skills. What you want is not unreasonable, but it may or may not be in line with what your girl wants. The only way to find out for sure is to ask her.

When you say "date", do you men that you are seeing her twice over the weekend... like Friday and Saturday nights? Maybe you can think about limiting yourself to 1 night, and one day (like Friday night and Sunday afternoon)?

I do not recommend dating during the week, at least not when you are in school. You should be studying then.

[xxazurexx]

If I was seeing someone, once a week would be enough and because at this moment in time I'd be just looking to date, not get serious with someone.

If I was looking for serious, once a week would be wasting my time.

Depends what you are looking for, she is looking for. Once a week might not be enough for her and if she is really into you.

[jan100]

Actually, I'm in a similar situation as your girlfriend where my bf has a hectic schedule-so hectic that I feel like I'm the one with more time on my hands.

For me, it did lead to resentment because I was forcing myself to understand his busy schedule. Knowing and understanding is a totally different dynamic.
I suggest explaining to her that it is nothing personal that you are busy. And suggest that you guys meet on certain days of the week/weekend and make sure that
you keep your word if you do set a specific date. I'm sure she will come around and begin to understand that you are making the effort to keep this relationship.

Also, I suggest calling her regularly when you guys can't meet in person. Those phone calls are very reassuring and it helped me a lot as well.
Just call to say hello and ask about her day, etc. She will appreciate that you care.

[Boy]

Thanks for your comments mates.

I'll try to be honest with her about it and hopefully she'd understand.