Missing my boyfriend and want to be able to be happy on my own

[Susaluda]

I'm away for 8 weeks in England and my boyfriend (well right now we're kind of on a break but we still talk, *see story below) is back home in California. I'm having a lot of trouble being happy on my own which is really something I need to work on but I don't know how. I have a great time when I'm out with my friends but when I'm back in my room all alone I feel sad and think about him a lot. I'm not going to be able to talk to him this week since he's away and I don't want to be just counting down the days.

How do I stop thinking about him so much and learn to be happy without him? I don't want him to have near complete control over my happiness.



*Story of why we're on a break (if you're interested):
We started dating at the beginning of last December and everything was so perfect. We had common interests and fell in love very quickly. The first three months or so were great and I'd never been happier but then after that he started getting super busy. We're both in college, I just finished my second year and he just graduated, and next year he is going to grad school to get his PhD somewhere else about 45 minutes away. He felt too pressured with the time commitment since he never had time to see me so we decided for now we are in a "less serious relationship" which is basically undefined for the time being. I am also his first relationship so I think the stress of it was getting to him.

[potmilkz]

im in the same pickle as you..

my gf said that she needed to concentrate on her school, graduating soon and working on getting her masters.

she said she will not have time for me once school starts and that we will end in bad terms and that she will need to just have time to herself, and no obligations.

we have been together for 5 years. I met her at age 17 and she moved in with me at the age of 18. Shes been living with me ever since and now im 22 this year..

Since she has gone back to her parents house, ive just been alone in my room, and when im alone, i think about her.

my best suggestion is to find something productive to do with an opposite sex. Everyone has needs, and at your current state, you need attention. Not saying you should get another partner but just hang out with them so you can have the feeling of being cared for by your friends.

this worked for me. i just recently broke up with my gf of 5 years about a month ago, and i rarely think about it when im doing such activities with some girls.. gets your mind off things.,

[girl68]

that's fairly easy- be busy. busy with your gf's talking about boys doesn't count as busy.