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(1) the idea that the man should pay for everything disgusts me...this is why women are still treated like #2, because they continue to have this kind of stupid mentality. if you wanted to be treated equally, then you better damn well be equal in every aspect of the relationship, including money!
(2) i was raised with manners. so if i did something out of the goodness of my heart for someone, i expect some form of gratitude in return. a simple thank you does wonders. so if my bf paid for my cover charge, i'd thank him, and if i bought him a beer, i'd expect him to say thank you as well. living in the tri-state area, where people are known to be rude, i can't count the number of times i've held a door open for someone and the person didn't bother saying thank you. it drives me nuts. i'm the crazy lady who yells out after them "your welcome!" haha.
(3) you need to talk to your bf. in order for your relationship to have any future, you need to talk to him about these things. tell him you feel under-appreciated, that you'd like for both of you guys to work at being more courteous to the other (you paying for things more often, and him showing more graciousness when you do pay for things or do nice things for him). that is the give and take aspect of the relationship. discuss this with him and see where it gets you. if it doesn't go anywhere than i'm leaning towards the idea that you two are just not compatible, either that or he just doesn't take your relationship that seriously and isn't bending over backwards because he anticipates that it's going to end eventually.