Quote Originally Posted by lotus petals View Post
male 1991,
in my opinion the world esp. the usa is quite rough on everyones self-esteem and confidence. for example, women are bombarted with billions of dollars worth of brilliantly manipulative advertising each year to feel more insecure about themselves so they will buy products and then fit into the world and be worthy haha! its an amazing scam being played on all of us everyday.

so my philosophy is that anyone who enters my sphere is going to be loved. i am not shy and confrontation and assertion come easy to me. my friends who are attractive will hear from me regularly how lovely they look. smart ones, how smart they are. whatever their talent is they will hear my appreciation of it. when i enter a home that's pleasant, my first words will be to compliment the resident on creating a good environment. and by being brutally honest they know i am not B.S.ing anyone. just yesterday a friend told me how much it means to him that i acknowledge his good qualities. if you are honest, people will soak it up like a very thirsty sponge.

we don't live in a vacuum. love your friend, it will make a huge difference in the quality of her life.
Thanks a lot, another good point. I make sure to appreciate her qualities and it's getting easier and easier for her to really believe it. So yeah, thanks a lot, your theory is really true in my case. Thanks