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Thread: I dont want to ruin his life - advise please

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    I dont want to ruin his life - advise please

    Ive been with my bf for 2 years and Ive been sick for the past 6 months and just recently been diagnosed with a rare auto immume disease which has caused me to lose my job, my looks, my idependance and my social life. Treatment options for it availiable do not offer much hope or improvement and I basically do not leave the house except to go to my doctor/specialist. We had plans to move in together and start a life with each other but now it looks very bleak. He is a very social person who loves to go out and has heaps of friends but since I got sick he spends his time with me at my place cause I cannot go out, helps pay my medical bills cause I cannot work and drives me around when I need to go to my appointments cause I can no longer drive. He mates complain about never seeing him and going out with them it. I tell him to go out but he always says no. I know he misses how things were before even though he says he doesnt. I love him more than anything but deep down I know he deserves a woman who is not sick, beautiful and can go out and enjoy life with him. Something I cannot give him. Should I let him go? Cause I think he doesnt want to leave me cause im sick but does cause of how his life has changed for the worse.

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    Girl, its a sad thing to hear you are sick, first of all i wish you the best, hope you can get better.
    And this guy is not with you for pity, he has been with u for 2 years, he loves you for what you are inside, love is not about looks, age, what u can give to the person.
    He undertands you lost your looks because you are sick and he loves you for what u are and for what he feels when he is by yourside. Dont push him away, he is aware of the situation and he feels good by your side, thats why he doesnt prefer to go out with his mate, and his mate is being selfish, because you need your boyfriend a lot right now. And your boyfriend needs you too.
    Dont feel guilty, u are not keeping him from doing anything. he is by yourside because when u love someone its for the good and the bad. He is there to support and help you.
    Be good soon
    good luck

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