I do.. and I totally appreciate what you have said here. I get that.. which is why I come here to vent anonymously. I am now suddenly feeling very mean.. I sincerely do try to include her on things (like a party I recently had) but she ends up just pissing me off every time.. On the other hand, a part of me feels like she knows exactly what she is doing and does not care about my feelings or the fact that he is taken. I honestly dont know if she would be upset about what the other girls said about her- she seems to not care about anyone but herself and what my bf thinks of her. If she cared about not being shunned, she would be friends with everyone and not just stare at and follow around one person. She could hang out with the everyone else and be a part of the girls night outs, etc.. she just never comes. She only comes if she knows my bf is gonna be there and then puts all her effort into him. No one is actively "shunning" her- she is doing this to herself. So I guess I dont know which perspective to take on her.. compassionate and patient or totally pissed off (truth be told I go back and forth between the two).
I have chilled out alot and have totally stopped talking about it to him- and limit it to my closest girlfriends and this forum. The frustration is still there though and needs to come out!! I know it doesnt seem like it from this thread, but I am not a mean person.. this here is the ugly side of me that doesnt want to come out to anyone of any consequence.