I have been dating this girl for about 7 months now and love her very much, she means alot to me in this world and I treat her with alot of respect. But I have one small problem or shall I say common problem with quite alot of males; "I sometimes find it hard to ejaculate during sex or love making" And this completely upsets her and she thinks by me not coming I dont find her attractive during sex/love making, which is not true at al, because I honestly do love her very much and she means alot to me in my heart and if I didnt like her, than I would of dumped her long time ago. She even mentioned to me once that she doesnt want to have sex with me anymore because it upsets her when I dont come.
There is a famous saying that goes "it takes two to tango", meaning during sex/love making both parties have to do their thing and also before sex to me foreplay is very important and this means on both sides, her and me. But sadly to say before we make love or have sex I will 90% of the time do foreplay on her to stimulate her and get her ready, than get into it, but not the other way around where she would stimulate me i.e so both of us a fired up and ready to make love, seems to be a one way thing. Anyhow during sex she will come in within 3 mins or so, leaving me still going at it untill my time runs out because during intercourse the male has a certain time period before he ejaculates and I end up becoming soft again.
I know as fact she loves me alot as she tells me that everyday in her sms's and I do love as well.
Questions
1. Is this cause by lack of stimulation from her side to me ?
2. Will having more sex often help me with this scenario i.e will help me come quicker ?
3. Is she being selfish ?
4. What can I do to mke her want to have sex and give me a fair go.
Thanks