Originally Posted by
Gigabitch
No Contact is good for YOU, regardless of what happens with her. I suggest you do it for your own sanity.
As Giga said.. No Contact isn't just about getting your ex back. You truly need to take the time to work on yourself too and work on the problems that caused the relationship to end, not just for your ex but for any possible future relationships. It's been nearly 3 months since I broke up with my Fiance of 7 years and I can tell you truly that no contact truly helps heal the pain of a "broken heart".. You need to fix the little problems that you have such as jealousy because seriously why would your ex ever want to get back with you if you're exactly the same as when they left you?! Also this isn't about making temporary changes either because maybe you will get back together but if you allow yourself to slip back into your old self then the same problems will repeat themselves.
I can tell you from my own experience that going NC isn't easy.. Sometimes you'll feel happy if you allow yourself but other days you might feel abit depressed but I believe that we are all in control of our emotions, we just need to WANT to be happy. If you feel yourself getting depressed think about a happy moment in your life (That doesn't involve your ex!!) and just try laughing out loud to yourself even though you might feel like a fool it really does help. Don't give in to your emotions and break the no contact because this will only show your ex that you can't be mature enough to give them the space that they need and you'll also hate yourself for it afterwards.
I shall leave you with a quote that I thought was great.. "Even failure can be success if you learn from it"
You never know what you've got, until it's gone...