Hello,
This problem has been playing on my mind and I have been getting very little sleep recently. I am only 17 so this is probably going to sound a bit pathetic compared to the normal stuff you get on here. This is quite complicated and I'll try to explain it as clearly as possible.
Basically I met this girl who is very beautiful and intelligent at a party and I thought we really hit it off for a first meet; we ended up holding hands, going out for a walk together, playing footsies, flirtatious touching etc. No kissing unfortunately all in one-night, keeping in mind that I had never met this girl as I have come in to my year at school from another school. It all went great I even overheard her talking to her friend’s v.postivley about the whole thing. I thought I stood a really good chance with this girl but I decided I would wait for a day till I sent a friend request on Facebook to her, but to my surprise she had sent me a request the day after the party. I accepted it feeling like I really had a chance with her, I immediately asked her out on a date to my shock she replied that she would love to but she had "been seeing a guy"for a while. I later found out this relationship was on the rocks, they have broken up and made up over a long period he had dumped her by text before and not only is the relationship unstable, there was very little contact between them apart from school (we all attend two single sex grammar school's so we are not even in the same classes but the girls and boys schools are next to each other) and the occasional visit.
It was a bit awkward for a while, but I kept talking to her we agreed to meet up at a beach and have lunch, she told me she was still undecided and she did not want to dump this guy over one night, fair enough. She then sent me a message out of the blue saying that she was really attracted to me and that we seemed to get on so well, but she would 'never' split with this guy because it 'devastated' her last time he broke up with her, but she still wanted to be friends and she still wanted to go to the beach with me, she got a bit upset when I said that I wasn't sure about the whole of seeing each other at the beach which I thought was strange.
Then what we did at the party came up in a conversation and it turns out that she doesn’t remember anything and I mean nothing between us, (which everyone I have talked to thinks is very strange because what she drunk was certainly not enough for a blackout of this measure basically everyone has told me she told me a load of BS), excluding our walkwhere we only had a conversation, I wanted to get to know her better as a person at that point I find this so odd as this is pretty much the only moment where we didn't do anything inappropriate considering she had a boyfriend, but she remembered that I was a lot more to drink than her which is true but I still had complete recollection of the party. After talking I got a mutual friend to back my account of events- which he did, I then sent her a really long account of what I can remember, she denied most of it she said I had made some of the stuff up got v.upset and removed me as a friend on Facebook
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I left it 2-weeks before I contacted her again, mainly because I didn't want her to say anything to any other girls which may ruin my chances with them. The message basically said I was sorry for what has happened and I didn't want it to ruin a friendship. She replied we should forget the whole thing and start afresh and be friends. I thought to myself that was that window cleared and I probably wouldn't talk to her again very often (she really hurt me when she disbanded me completely), the next thing I know she has started a chat window in Facebook thinking the next day she was being friendly I went along with it, this has developed to us chatting regularly for around an hour and a half each time for 3-weeks (I never started the conversations as I was still unsure that she wanted to talk to me because she felt sorry for me) needless to say I started to fall for her again and I have been able to find out lots more about her which is lovely, the subject then came up about to Coldplay and we discovered that we shared a favourite band (we have lots in common with each other). I then said that I loved the piano and I have always wanted to learn how to play; well it turns out that she has been playing the piano since she was little and has lots of Coldplay sheet music, the entire conversation sounded like a script for a beginning of a romantic film everything clicked. She then tells me she would like to teach me in her free-time for free, her reasoning for this is because she 'likes to boss people about *with a sticking-out tounge smiley*''which I don't understand because bossiness is certainly not one of her traits she has shown me, I think I am quite a good judge of character as well. I said yes and we have agreed when we get back from the holidays she is going to book me a piano at school and she will teach me how to play some of Coldplay's music together.
Now I have never had a friend who is as friendly as she is and this has made me confused. I have already got lots of advice from my parents and my friends my Dad tells me she is a "psycho" and he "wouldn't touch her with a barge pole" which I think frankly is a load of rubbish, because he has very little relationship skills and he can't even trust my step-mum who he is married to. I only see him during the holidays as I live with my Mum, but I can't help him having an effect on my decision process he is my Dad after all. Basically I would really appreciate any advice, should I get my hopes up? Is she being friendly or is she mucking me about? What should I do next? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Sam