I know this is usually a place for intimate relationships, but my family relationships are all screwed up and i need some advice!
I'll make it short, you can feel free to ask for details.
10 years ago, my mom and dad divorced, my brother went with my dad and i went with my mom. My dad was severely abusive towards my mom and brother while we were growing up. 6 months later my dad was engaged to a woman he met on the internet who lived in florida (we're in TX). Because of this, a lot of things were not resolved between my parents. My brother suffered from being neglected to never having food around while my mom and i did just fine in a tiny apartment. When my stepmom moved to Texas, she brought two kids with her, a daughter my brothers age and a son 3 years younger than me. My dad treated these two kids and their mom better than he had ever treated my brother, my mom, and me.
So even though he physically abused my brother and my mom, he was allowed to live a life of lies, telling my stepmom that my mom was a cheater and emotionally abusive to him, so my stepmom hates my mom.
Not even a year into their marriage, my stepmom buddies up to a church counselor that my mom saw when things weren't so well, and tells my stepmom that my mom knew about her and my dad chatting online before the divorce. My stepmom then tells my mom she can "Go to hell and never ****ing call this house again!"
Now, about 9 years later, my brother (who is a sociopath and was released from the military for it) is dating a girl whom he abuses (even though she sticks around) and cant seem to get a handle on his money, so he asked my mom (for the millionth time) for money and she refuses him. So he goes to my dad (who is always ready to be the favorite parent) and gets money.
He then decides to have a family dinner to propose to his gf, and my mom and I aren't invited. We didn't even get a phone call. I found out on Facebook. So i deactivated my account in an attempt to get my brother to call me, and instead my stepmom, stepsister,and dad claim that I deleted them and start to cause drama. Meanwhile my mom is severely hurt by all of this and it's making me angry.
My step-sister says "what you did sent a big '**** you' to us and after all your father has done for you! And all the things he would do for you!?"
Ever since the divorce, nobody has ever set them straight about who my dad really is. My brother has seriously blocked out everything that happened to him (yeah he doesn't remember the bruises) and thinks that my dad is a god. My mom doesn't want to 'get into it' and I'm stuck with the memories and the nightmares.
I just feel that if everybody knew, then they would understand why I suffer from severe anxiety and stop making me into the bad guy.
Oh and I've made peace with the fact that I hate my father. Any advice on leading a normal life after this?