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    i really need some help.

    So to be honest ive really had no luck with my girl, see our relationship is in secret so we cant do anything, but really it feels like she dosent even love me anymore, i mean she did about before the summer ended, she did a whole lot yet now it feels like before the summer never happened. & we've spent time speaking to each other online the whole summer. i really dont know what to do anymore, its like she's changed, & it seems i cant do anything about it to rekindle it, or even try & make it worth while. does anyone have any advice?..i could really use it. hell we used to be best friends. & our relationships possibly going to end up in the crapper, we see each other on my school grounds, yet she dosent even look at me anymore, i try to hold her hand, she leaves. i really dont want this to end.

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    Why is the relationship secret? Is one of you cheating on somebody else, like a husband or wife? Or is there an embarrassing age difference?
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    Quote Originally Posted by VincenzoG91 View Post
    Why is the relationship secret? Is one of you cheating on somebody else, like a husband or wife? Or is there an embarrassing age difference?
    none of us are cheating, reasonw hy we keep it a secret is cause her parents hate me with all their might, but their not in this.

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    The parents are going to stay in the picture until she is able to move out and support herself, or be supported by you. And even then, they may not get out of the way, if she is close to them. Why do they hate you?
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    their not very fond of her dating absolutely anyone else. but really the parents aren't involved in this or anything, they dont know were dating its just i really dont know how to rekindle our relationship since its so secret, & really dont want to lose her, her parents arent a problem in this.

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    Why do her parents hate you? And what is up with your awful SN?
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    If you two are still in school, then you're both still learning and growing and changing. Unfortunately, some of those changes may send you in different directions. It sounds like she is moving on. You can tell her how you feel and see what happens, but you can't make her feel the same way if she doesn't want that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by IndiReloaded View Post
    Why do her parents hate you? And what is up with your awful SN?
    ok they hate the fact of her dating because of what her mother did before her & ill leave it at that because i can not go any further, but thats not the real point.
    i need help on how to rekindle it. not about her parents

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    Quote Originally Posted by VincenzoG91 View Post
    If you two are still in school, then you're both still learning and growing and changing. Unfortunately, some of those changes may send you in different directions. It sounds like she is moving on. You can tell her how you feel and see what happens, but you can't make her feel the same way if she doesn't want that.
    to be honest, i think you may be right, but im still not sure, not to be mean or anything but she dosent change, ive been with her for 3 years, she hasnt changed a thought throughout then only until now but im still not sure, maybe your right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GenocidalGrey View Post
    ok they hate the fact of her dating because of what her mother did before her & ill leave it at that because i can not go any further, but thats not the real point.
    i need help on how to rekindle it. not about her parents
    So, they hate her dating generally or they just hate her dating YOU?
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    Quote Originally Posted by IndiReloaded View Post
    So, they hate her dating generally or they just hate her dating YOU?
    mostly generally but really this is getting way irrelevant.

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    Actually, I did have some advice but you don't seem interested. Good luck.
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    since when did summer end??? thats the thing i wana know

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    Quote Originally Posted by shammi View Post
    since when did summer end??? thats the thing i wana know
    Fair question. According to the calendar, summer doesn't end until late next month. But the typical American school year starts either this week or just after Labor Day, the first Monday in September. Students tend to consider summer over when the fall semester classes start.
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