How long can a relationship possibly last when they are together for the wrong reasons? My friend has been with this guy for 2 years, and to put it simply he treats her like sh*t. She's admitted this, she knows this, she ignores this. He acts like he doesn't care about her at all, he'll leave her all alone in an unfamiliar place for her to get lost when he's mad, and when she calls him saying she's scared and lost, he flat out doesn't care. Just left her there. He's cheated on her before, he's trapping her with his life. He won't let her have friends, won't let her see anyone when he's not there, even her best friend. Her and I got into a fight the other night over this. Apparently he got mad because she told him he treated her like shit, and they had a huge fight. She called me to talk about it and basically told me she's only with him because she has no one else and nowhere to go, and she feels that she would be even more trapped if she were with someone who actually loves her (which makes NO sense) So basically, that's the only reason she's staying with him. She admits this, yet when I try to tell her that is not right and that she can find someone who loves her and treats her better, she just says she doesn't want to be trapped like that and that she would most likely just mess that up as well. She also says she's too scared to leave. Which leads me to believe he abuses her (more than mentally and emotionally.) She got mad at me for telling her she should leave him and that it's not a healthy relationship, because she "wants to ignore it" like she has been. She flat out said "I know what things are and I like ignoring them."
How long can someone live like that? And be in a relationship as terrible as that? She's getting herself more and more stuck to him in a bad way, I'm afraid I'll eventually lose her alltogether. It's almost as if she's making herself miserable on purpose because she doesn't believe she deserves to be happy or in love. How long can you ignore that and ignore the fact that hes just not right for her and that there's someone else out there that is?