I have a good friend who has been turning into more than a good friend lately. We live an hour apart so we don't see each other very often, maybe twice a month. This has been going on for over a year. He is becoming my best friend, we talk every day. When we are together we can't keep our hands off each other. I am beginning to have feelings for him, and I know he is the same for me.
But I also am not a Christian at all, and he is. His father is a preacher. So his family are very devout Christians. He doesn't hound me about religion. We really dont talk about it much at all. If I try to bring it up he blows it off like he would rather not discuss religion.
I have never met his parents and Im afraid I will have to pretend to be Christian or they won't accept me. And I don't think we could really ever be serious, because Im not going to go to church every Sunday to listen to beliefs that aren't my own.And I know I may be thinking way ahead, but Im afraid I would be forced to raise my children as Christians and teach them things I don't believe. I'm spiriitual and have a very different way of thinking. He is aware of this, but accepts me for me. Im just so worried that later on down the road and if a marriage would be possible and how we would raise our children.
He is 8 years older than me, he was engaged when he was younger but his fiance cheated on him and got pregnant. So now that he is older and had plenty of time to date and get flings out of his system I know that he is looking for something serious and he wants to settle down. I know some people will say he just wants a fling. But we don't see each other often enough for it to be a fling. So I just wonder why he isn't as concerned about this as I am.
I brought up the fact that maybe we shouldnt talk to each other so much because we would never be able to have a serious relationship due to the fact that Im not a Christian. He just told me that I don't know if it would work, I can't see the future. And I dated other guys not knowing if it would last or not so why is it different with him. He said I worry too much. I kind of wonder if he thinks if we dated I would go with him to his dad's church and it would change me. I mean I dont know why he isnt concerned like me.