Actually Chris, so long as you don't act on your hatred of her IRL then maybe you should just really cut loose here about how much you hate this woman and what she did.
We'll support you. Noone here is disagreeing that she sounds like a complete self-absorbed, inconstant bitch for leaving you. But the problem is, it is unlikely you will ever be able to get resolution from her about this. We just don't want you to 1) think all women are like this, 2) waste time dwelling on this when nothing you can do will change things.
You must see the paradox here? If she was the kind of person who would feel the slightest remorse for leaving you, then she probably wouldn't have left. Or at least wouldn't have married you in the first place or would have tried counselling, or something before dumping you so cruelly. But she isn't that person. So you are wasting your time with all your 'whys', as far as her behaviour goes. You need to find a way to flip that mental switch and flush her, just like you would a particularly painful dump. You don't cry over the shit you flush down the toilet do you? Of course not. Because its shit and its not worth thinking about once its gone.
Same for her, Chris. So go ahead and vent. I think you are still at the stage where you need to release all your emotion before you'll be able to think about this rationally. Frankly, you need to stop putting Jenn on a pedestal b/c from where I sit she doesn't sound all that great.
BTW, for whatever its worth to you I can promise you that she WILL suffer for her attitudes about other people. Maybe not right away, and probably never so that you will get satisfaction directly but I've seen people do terrible things to each other and they always pay for it in some way. Karma is a bitch and a bastard. Believe it.
Last edited by IndiReloaded; 30-08-10 at 06:58 AM.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh