Hello,
Me: 27, male, physician in training, middle-eastern background
Her: 28, nurse, caucasian Canadian
Relationship: been going out for 7 months. Known each other for 1 year. About to move in together. Things are going really well. Been on two overseas trips together and had a killer time! We are best friends at heart and agree about most fundamental issues. Our sex life couldn't be any better! I see her as long-term potential but:
The problem: My parents don't agree with our relationship. We are a non-religious middle-eastern family and she's white. My parents agree that she's a great person and has a great character but have serious problems with the following:
1)her age: she's apparently "too old" for me. In our culture, they claim, women need to be "at least 5 years younger". I argue that there is absolutely NO evidence that relationships with a much younger wife fair better, but they argue that she'll age faster and that they want a "beautiful, young bride". They claim that it's all for my best interest but it really seems that they're trying to keep themselves satisfied.
2)she's not pretty enough! "Our son is a doctor and deserves a hot wife!" To be honest, my girlfriend is very good looking and many have commented on her beauty. Plus, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I find her very attractive.
Beside these two major issues, they don't note any other serious problems. There is minor things like she isn't educated enough (she's a nurse and I am a doc) or rich enough (she comes from a middle class family and my family isn't rich either).
My gf makes me very happy and I love her very much. She's my best friend. I just don't want to leave her because my parents don't like her age or looks. I also don't want conflict in the family...it's nice when everyone loves each other and gets along. My parents keep on saying that I because I'm decent looking and a future doc, I'll have line-ups of girls at my disposal and I'll be able to choose "the best girl around". Anyways, what should I do? I don't want to leave her and go looking elsewhere...i'm happy and at peace. I just hope my parents don't wreck my happiness.