The Perpetually Dissatisfied Male

[lahnnabell]

This thread is depressing, I hate it.

Did I hit a sensitive spot?

[7sins]

Did I hit a sensitive spot?

Yes..........................

[lahnnabell]

Yes..........................

Whether you know it or not, this is a good thing.

[7sins]

Whether you know it or not, this is a good thing.

Yes mother...

[boobaa]

Where do you guys and girls stand on this? Am I way off base? It's making me seriously take another look at the kind of men I invest in. It seems like the ones that are full of ambition and drive are the least capable of nurturing a relationship, and the ones that choose to commit in a relationship lack no desire to move upward professionally and become fully, functional independent adults. I have yet to find a balanced male equal to myself it seems.

Of course.

How can you work hard and do the stuff you like if some girlfriend is nagging 24/7 on the phone craving for attention. Usually men give the attention, get laid and wait another day when same shit happens.

If I would be in relationship right now and pursuit something, my other side would grow bored because I wouldn't have enough time for her, neither would I be interesting, which is more important than having actual time.

[VincenzoG91]

Between internet porn and console games, there is no way a guy is going to mature in this day and age unless he is highly motivated. Some guys are born with motivation, but the rest need a nagging girlfriend to motivate them. I sometimes wish that my girlfriend was more nurturing and supportive, but instead she often challenges me to become a better person in every way. Since meeting her seven years ago, I have doubled my income, taken an anger management class, paid off all my debts, and stepped up my workouts at the gym. I'm happier, healthier, and more successful. Would it have happened if I had a more nurturing girlfriend? Maybe I would be even happier, but I doubt it.

[Gigabitch]

I'm not sure I know of any other breeds. I always feel so confident in my decisions. Every guy starts out telling me about their goals, ambitions, and dreams...

Actions speak louder than words. From now on, don't believe a ****ing word of it.

I'm a personal trainer for a living, by the way.

Horseshit.

Between internet porn and console games, there is no way a guy is going to mature in this day and age unless he is highly motivated. Some guys are born with motivation, but the rest need a nagging girlfriend to motivate them. I sometimes wish that my girlfriend was more nurturing and supportive, but instead she often challenges me to become a better person in every way. Since meeting her seven years ago, I have doubled my income, taken an anger management class, paid off all my debts, and stepped up my workouts at the gym. I'm happier, healthier, and more successful. Would it have happened if I had a more nurturing girlfriend? Maybe I would be even happier, but I doubt it.

This proves my theory that being a demanding bitch really pays off.

[hurt_confuzd]

Horseshit.

If you spent more time talking to me on Facebook instead of taking care of your "family" in real life or whatever the ƒuck you've been doing, YOU WOULD KNOW MORE ABOUT WHAT I'VE BEEN UP TO!

I'm definitely a personal trainer now, and I have a wide assortment of products to choose from. Here's my best seller:

[Sonrisa]

and he is creative as well. dreamy.

[IndiReloaded]

I turfed guys like this all the time when I was dating. Its not just guys that do this.

[hurt_confuzd]

and he is creative as well. dreamy.

You need to jump on the "I love Nick" bandwagon. Immediately.

[Sonrisa]

You need to jump on the "I love Nick" bandwagon. Immediately.

you have enough followers as is

[lahnnabell]

Of course.

How can you work hard and do the stuff you like if some girlfriend is nagging 24/7 on the phone craving for attention. Usually men give the attention, get laid and wait another day when same shit happens.

If I would be in relationship right now and pursuit something, my other side would grow bored because I wouldn't have enough time for her, neither would I be interesting, which is more important than having actual time.

Way to go off the deep end with that! Nurturing a relationship does not mean you have to be on the phone 24/7 with your girl. If that is the case, and you are unhappy, then yes, you should break up with her. But don't blame someone else if you can't find your balls enough to call someone out on their annoying behavior. I've had guys virtually force me into breaking up with them. Despite their obvious unhappiness and my attempt to talk to them about it, they refused to have a conversation. So I left.

[Junket]

Generation X and Y are full of kids like these.

I blame it on the baby boomers.

[ShannonMI]

"It seems like the ones that are full of ambition and drive are the least capable of nurturing a relationship, and the ones that choose to commit in a relationship lack no desire to move upward professionally and become fully, functional independent adults. I have yet to find a balanced male equal to myself it seems."

My ex was the overly ambitious type you are describing here. He couldn't nurture our relationship. He was way too busy with work and his band. I believe a lot of why our relationship failed, is because he just never spend that much time with me. I didn't nag him because I knew how important his career and band were to him. I fell by the wayside and it was all about his ambition. While I love a man with ambition and goals, I don't really ever want to date such a workoholic again. I want a balanced male as well. One that isn't a crazy workoholic, but one that has time to nurture and spend quality time with me. I just want a man with a good job and one that is responsible. I don't want a man who lives and breathes work and has no time for me. My ex was the one that wanted the butterflies to last forever. A fantasy. Now he's dating a 20 year old. She's a college kid. I wonder how that's working out for him. My ex is 28. He's very mature in many ways, but immature in others. It's hard to find a balance.