what are your opinions of porn.

[Katie_melender]

okay.
my boyfriend is 21, i am 20.
i know i cannot stop him and its quite natural for him to watch porn but it makes me feel really uncomfortable . he has porn on his phone too, if we were apart abit i would understand hiwever we live together. instead of just watching normal porn i found links in my internet history from forums he uses. all the links he hasd clicked were of users showing pictures of themself and such, i dont think this is normal. i find it quite upsetting that he sleeps next to me everynight but would sometimes rather pleasure himself lookin at girls on the internet. my partner doesnt have the biggest sex drive in the world so it concerbs me as to y he has it on his phone when hes never away from me long enough to feel sexually frustrated?

guys is this normal, should i tell him how it makes me feel? - very insecure. and girls how do you feek about your other half and porn?

[lahnnabell]

Part of the reason for his lack of a sex drive is his dependency upon porn. He's probably been looking at it for years at this point and has grown accustomed to pleasing himself in his own way. Now he has to fit someone else into his schedule (i.e. you) and he's probably clueless as to how to do that, and he's probably too immature to ask you to help him out.

You should probably start by voicing your concerns about his porn habits. I mean, porn on his phone? Is that really necessary? I suppose if you're whacking off in other people's bathrooms it is. Sounds like you're a little ahead in the maturity department.

[Katie_melender]

Part of the reason for his lack of a sex drive is his dependency upon porn. He's probably been looking at it for years at this point and has grown accustomed to pleasing himself in his own way. Now he has to fit someone else into his schedule (i.e. you) and he's probably clueless as to how to do that, and he's probably too immature to ask you to help him out.

You should probably start by voicing your concerns about his porn habits. I mean, porn on his phone? Is that really necessary? I suppose if you're whacking off in other people's bathrooms it is. Sounds like you're a little ahead in the maturity department.

that is my thoughts exactly about the phone. However i think he uses it at home when he 'goes to the toilet' which is upsetting as he then comes and gets into bed with me after satisfying himself with videos/pics of other girls.

im going to talk to him about it. I asked my friends and readup on other people how often them and their partners have sex and they said about 5 times a week, sometimes more than once the same day.. me and my boyfriend have sex twice at the most and not always that, i feel like our sex life is failing because of pon.

Today i found photos on his laptop of girls.. which had been taken by a webcam, 2 girls on evey picture and there was around 30 photos... they were messing about in their kitchen, most posing on some of them and then some topless.. not enough to get anyone off, why would he have these pictures of just girls?

i would rather watch porn with him or take my own photos/videos for him rather than him sneak off to the bathroom!

[WaiKru]

i would rather watch porn with him or take my own photos/videos for him rather than him sneak off to the bathroom!

Perhaps you should then? I'm not advocating his obvious addiction to porn, but doing something like this would be very unexpected, and would probably pleasantly surprise him.

[dewilliams2]

Well do you know he is jackin off to it? I mean the guy could just have a low sex drive...but sometimes you just like to see boobies. As a guy I can say that I like seeing naked women and that doesn't always mean I'm gonna go stroke it right away. I just like to see naked women as much as possible.

I do watch porn, I watch porn with my gf, she has her own porn....we watch it during foreplay/sex sometimes....have you thought of surprising him with some porn during sex?

I mean you know the guy better than I do so maybe he does have some porn addiction going on...especially if he is taking his phone to the bathroom and jacking off...but if he isn't then maybe he is just being a normal guy and likes to see naked women.

[lilly1185]

My boyfriend current checks out porn- I don't care because I can't be there all the time. I'm satisfied when we're together, so why complain?

I did live with an ex once though, who had a complete dependency on porn.
I was picking up extra hours at work to make sure we had money to pay for rent/food, and he would occasionally call out for fap fests. He'd sneak out of bed in the morning to rub a few out, while I was burning out vibrators trying to figure out what was unsexy about me.
You can tell him all day long how you feel- he probably isn't listening.

There are two out comes; he'll smile and nod and say you're right and he'll do better (but he won't,) or he'll wildly accuse you of being psychotic and controlling.
I tried to actually control the issue myself, net nannies, counseling, passwording and monitoring the computer- this is one of those things he'll have to decide is a problem on his own, and you have to decide if this is a deal breaker, or if he has other redeeming qualities.
Good luck, hun.

[kitkitkitty]

'going to the toilet' then getting into bed with you? i find that weird.

[doppelgaenger]

I wish I had porn on my phone. I would put it on speed dial and watch people's reactions when I accidentally dial it up.

[VincenzoG91]

I wish I had porn on my phone. I would put it on speed dial and watch people's reactions when I accidentally dial it up.

That would bring new meaning to the term "pocket-dialing."

[doppelgaenger]

It would be hilarious if you were in an elevator and it started going off, like how my friends accidentally call me with their phones. Imagine the awkward silence accompanied by the fake moaning of the porn star. It would be like an audible fart.

[misombra]

porn is immoral and people who watch it are gonna go to hell.

[Sonrisa]

Matthew 5:28 "If a man looks on a woman to lust after her, he has committed adultery with her already in his heart."

[Sonrisa]

Ephesians 5:5 "For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God."

[Sonrisa]

Revelation 21:8 "But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death."

oh no, does that mean that Harry Potter is going to hell!?!

[Sonrisa]

Hebrews 4:13 "All things are naked and opened to the eyes of Him with whom we have to do."

^^^does that mean that God watches porn?