Wife likes another man

[vashti]

lol

this thread is funny.

How long have you been married, original poster? I don't know of ANY long term marriages in which neither partner has developed a crush on someone else at some point. It's not a catastrophe, so long as she distanced herself appropriately.

[misskate]

You're married. You both made vows and your wifes top priority should be her husband and family.
She should be honoring her marriage and her husband...PERIOD. If you are bothered or concerned bring it up. And if needed give her an ultimatum.

[Charisma]

It makes you wonder what some people class as cheating, and what others consider bordering onto cheating, etc...

I don't know your wife or the co worker in question to make a judgement on them, but I'd say it's a good sign if your wife has mentioned it to you, and has been ok with you bringing it up to talk about again. *I would imagine* that someone with something to hide would be antsy and twittery about chatting about the thing they want to sneak about doing, so openly.

[EPRaven]

lol

this thread is funny.

How long have you been married, original poster? I don't know of ANY long term marriages in which neither partner has developed a crush on someone else at some point. It's not a catastrophe, so long as she distanced herself appropriately.

I also find it a little funny and yes I do know that anyone at anytime can find themselves having a crush on someone. We have been married for about 5 years and been together for close to 12...I know its not a catastrophe and I may have jumped the gun a little posting here but its always good to get advice if you feel the need. Whether good, bad or indifferent... input from others is never a bad thing. Sometimes it just helps you clarify things to yourself.

It makes you wonder what some people class as cheating, and what others consider bordering onto cheating, etc...

I don't know your wife or the co worker in question to make a judgement on them, but I'd say it's a good sign if your wife has mentioned it to you, and has been ok with you bringing it up to talk about again. *I would imagine* that someone with something to hide would be antsy and twittery about chatting about the thing they want to sneak about doing, so openly.

I think you hit the nail on the head!! We have talked about this many times over and she has been completely open and honest with me every step of the way ... that even includes reading off text messages and such. We have communicated and been honest with each other way more than I may have let on to... Like I said before I may have jumped the gun a bit posting but all the advice has helped in the long run. She was very clear to the 'guy' she works with about her marriage and very clear about anything he could expect. I still believe he is in love with my wife but the ball is in his court to keep it professional.

Thanks again for everyone's input!