Dating Ideas

[blackiesharley]

I think I'll just ask her to a movie. Thanks very much for your replies and wish me luck!

Good luck Joe, and wish me luck too. Thursday night is my big first date and I'm excited and yes a little nervous. I met this wonderful girl Saturday night at a resturant, we hit it off immediately and exchanged numbers. She called me twice on Sunday and I called her Monday night and we spoke for hours. SHE asked me out, of course I said yes and we discussed what to do. We agreed that we shouldn't go back to the place we met for our first date as it would be too loud and crowded for nice conversation, etc. She suggested horse-back riding, but I've never ridden a horse and I don't want to look like a klutz. (at least not yet)

Then we each had the same idea. There's an huge outdoor mall in Hollywood called 'The Grove.' Lot's of little cafes, shops, Xmas carolers, fountains, a open air tram that's really romatic, a massive Xmas tree, it'll be perfect especially as with both live close by and can meet there.

Finally, I've alway held the belief that movies are not a great first date, due to the fact that you can't talk and get to know the other person. On the other hand, going for coffee or a drink after the film affords a good subject for conversation.

Now, my problem. (I don't mean to thread-jack but it's in the same vein) Her parents have passed and she has no real family. Although I have a big extend family, they're all in the South and I only have my 90 YO Mother here in L.A. Of course, I'll spend Christmas day with her. New girl asked what I was doing Xmas day and thought perhaps we could get together then as well. Nice thought, but I'm not going to leave my Mom alone on Xmas and if I invite 'new girl' over, it's like 'come meet my Mom,' and that's too much for what basically would be a second date.

Maybe it's just a scheduling problem. Spend the day with my Mother and meet 'new girl' for a late supper somewhere. This is of course assuming that Thursday night goes well.

Suggestions?

[Fawn]

I usually opt for bowling. Fun atmosphere, relaxed, plus I'm much better than the average person as far as bowling goes so I can easily use it for "bets" and always win (usually I say, "Well, I'll tell you what. Call me cliche, but we'll just bowl for a kiss. I win, I get a kiss." Then after I beat the crap out of them, I say in the second game, "Well I like what I'm getting a little later. What do you want to bet on the second game? You know I'll win so I'll let you choose the terms.")

Good Idea. lol. Though I would prob. beat anyone in bowling. I was in a league for 8 years and was one of the top players. lol.

Well, heres some advice from a girls point of view.
From what I've experienced, I prefer to have a nice coffee first and then go to a park. I like a comfy atmosphere and its nice to be able to get to know someone that way. Especially for a first date, its a great way to get to know someone.

Its winter time around here, so its a little harder to get some good date ideas. I've always found skating at the local ice rink to be fun.

Movies are classic. Its true, there's not much room for conversation during a movie. Thats why I always found it to be good to meet up somewhere, either before or after the movie to talk a bit. Maybe enjoy a coffee/tea/hot chocolate/drink.

Its also good to ask the girl what she likes, or atleast find out what she's really interested in too.

I'm pretty low maintenance. I like to relax. So, going out for dinner and then renting a movie has always been a good choice. Its something I always enjoy.

Malls are good places. But, you'd have to watch out. If she's a "shopaholic" type, be prepared to be standing awkwardly in stores as she looks at items.

There are alot of different things you can do. It doesn't have to be complicated. All you need are a few simple things.

[blackiesharley]

Good Idea. lol. Though I would prob. beat anyone in bowling. I was in a league for 8 years and was one of the top players. lol.

Well, heres some advice from a girls point of view.
From what I've experienced, I prefer to have a nice coffee first and then go to a park. I like a comfy atmosphere and its nice to be able to get to know someone that way. Especially for a first date, its a great way to get to know someone.

Its winter time around here, so its a little harder to get some good date ideas. I've always found skating at the local ice rink to be fun.

Movies are classic. Its true, there's not much room for conversation during a movie. Thats why I always found it to be good to meet up somewhere, either before or after the movie to talk a bit. Maybe enjoy a coffee/tea/hot chocolate/drink.

Its also good to ask the girl what she likes, or atleast find out what she's really interested in too.

I'm pretty low maintenance. I like to relax. So, going out for dinner and then renting a movie has always been a good choice. Its something I always enjoy.

Malls are good places. But, you'd have to watch out. If she's a "shopaholic" type, be prepared to be standing awkwardly in stores as she looks at items.

There are alot of different things you can do. It doesn't have to be complicated. All you need are a few simple things.

Fawn, you're right. It doesn't have to be complicated and bowling is actually a good idea, lot's of time to talk & laugh between frames, most alleys have food and drink service, music, etc as well so you can always grap some refreshments. My new theory is to keep first dates 'lite,' and build from there, but I think my 'mall' plans for tommorrow night are perfect. I'm not exactly a teen-ager by any means and have been dating quite a bit, but I AM nervous about this lady, she seems so perfect, we even, despite the fact we met in a club/resturant have mutual friends.

Deep breath, be myself, again, keep it lite, see what happens. (I've already picked out what I'm wearing LOL.)

[Fawn]

Fawn, you're right. It doesn't have to be complicated and bowling is actually a good idea, lot's of time to talk & laugh between frames, most alleys have food and drink service, music, etc as well so you can always grap some refreshments. My new theory is to keep first dates 'lite,' and build from there, but I think my 'mall' plans for tommorrow night are perfect. I'm not exactly a teen-ager by any means and have been dating quite a bit, but I AM nervous about this lady, she seems so perfect, we even, despite the fact we met in a club/resturant have mutual friends.

Deep breath, be myself, again, keep it lite, see what happens. (I've already picked out what I'm wearing LOL.)

aww... so sweet. I haven't seen someone so excited about a date in a long time!!!
You'll do fine! Don't worry! lol!

[blackiesharley]

aww... so sweet. I haven't seen someone so excited about a date in a long time!!!
You'll do fine! Don't worry! lol!

LOL at myself for being nervous. And thanks for the support Fawn. Kind of a cool story.... I received a call Saturday afternoon from a buddy who asked what I was doing that evening. I said I had no plans. He said to meet him for pizza and a couple of drinks at this local club. We had a great time, but as the night wore on I realized that if I stayed there I would hate myself in the morning, so I decided to call it a night and go home.

Valet ticket in hand I walked outside to the immensely packed parking lot (cars and people coming in) and the valet asked for my ticket. SOMETHING, I don't know WHAT made me say 'not now, in a few minutes.' It was an errie feeling. I'd only had two glasses of wine over a four-hour period on a full stomach but yet I felt a little 'high.'

I then looked across the throng of people and cars and like a radar beam, I made eye contact with this lady who was standing about 75 feet from me, and was looking at me. (Although she was cute, it wasn't her looks, it was the 'energy.') I didn't even think, it was like I was 'auto-pilot' and made my way over to her and simply said 'Hi, my name is XXXX, what's your's?' She shook hands and introduced herself, smiling. I said something to the effect that I was sure that she was on a date but I'd like to chat with her sometime. Without hesitation, she said 'not on a date, I'm just out with some friends tonight, give me your card and I'll write down my number,' which she did. The next night, two phone calls from her...(details eariler in this thread.)

Sometimes, things just 'happen' when you're not looking for them. Of course, that's how people get run over by buses, too.

[Nice Lover Boy]

I live in Charlotte, North Carolina. In a suburb called Matthews. The nearest beach is 6 hours away and the mountains are 4 hours away. For a big city, there really isn't much to do here. Another idea I had were concerts, but none are going on right now. Hmm, what are some of your ideas?

Hum.. not much to do where your at. What I do, is go to the movies, or skip the movies and go to a nice restaurant and then go to the harbor and walk around with her and talk about things. Find a place where you two can walk together and where it has a nice view.