Originally Posted by
cap
I dont know after one month she says that we are not compatiable for marriage.
After 10 years you know if you want to marry someone. Hell you know after about 6 months (even if you're not ready to marry someone you know if they're a good fit for you)...
If I were in your shoes I would thank her for her honesty and then break up with her. I'm not you, and you're not me. She's going to come back in a month and tell you that she's found someone else. She's not going to marry you for any reason you want her to marry you for. Either she knows by now or she doesn't, and really you deserve better than that in your life. I know it's not what you want to hear, and that it's generally heartbreaking. For that I am sorry. Your relationship with her, regardless of who has issues about what, does not sound healthy. Take the effort you've put into bettering yourself, continue it, expand upon it, and find someone that you deserve.
People like to drag things out hoping to not hurt the other person. If they truly cared about the person and weren't so caught up in avoiding their own emotional pain over hurting their partner, they'd just break up with them. Let the other person move on with their life. It's far more selfish to just keep dangling people on a line.
Let's say she comes back in 1 month and says yes. What then? Are you easily able to get over the fact that when you asked her she was unable to give you an answer for a month, or over years?
It's a tough call, but I'd move on. You need to change yourself for you, because you want to, not because you want to be someone that someone else other than yourself can love.
"Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."