Need some help with a girl..

[xjokerz]

Okay, so this girl I have been thinking about is really beautiful and she's as sweet as possible. We don't see each other much and when we do, we don't talk a lot because she's working or whatever. I would like to get to know her, however. What is the best way of going about this?

Since we don't see each other much, I was thinking of sending her a message on Facebook, expressing my feelings towards her. Would that be a good idea? I'm sick of being jerked around. This whole 2010 year has been hell for me. Just when I get to know a girl, she inexplicably turns on me, and I hate it. It has caused me to become depressed and upset about the future. I think this one is the real deal. She has a great chance. She reminds me of another girl who I liked two years ago (and she liked me, but I was already in a relationship at the time).

So would Facebook be a good way to start things out and express how I feel about her? Thanks for the help.

[kitkitkitty]

i think you may as well try it, yeah. but get to know her 1st before you by any means tell her how you feel, it'll only creep her out if she doesn't know you at all. but yeah, get to know her.

[xjokerz]

Would this be okay to send her?: (ignore the Eastern and Western part, they're colleges in our state)

Um, I have something to say. I really need to let you know, since keeping it bottled up inside of me is causing a great deal of discomfort...

Ever since I began thinking of going to Eastern instead of Western, I was thinking why I would want to. Well, the reason is you. To be honest, you are why I would want to go to college there. This may sound weird, but there's something about you that attracts me. Obviously, we don't see each other much but from what I already know, you are really sweet and sincere. I think I would be interested in getting to know you.

Please don't take this bad. I really mean it. This whole year has been terrible for me in getting to know girls. It seems like they're all liars and they made me feel depressed. I don't even know what I did wrong. I just hope we can become friends and talk. That is, if it's okay..

[kitkitkitty]

scrap that you sound like a stalker. i meant more along the lines of 'hey, how're you? how's your day been?'

[xjokerz]

Are you sure? That sounds a little too basic..

[kitkitkitty]

you hardly know her, you shouldn't throw yourself into anything without wanting to sound crazy, trust me.

[lana33]

I agree with kit, you don't want to come across to intense or needy. Start chatty, fun and friendly, get to know her let her get to know you.

[Charisma]

yeah, remember that you haven't spoken much, she might think it's a bit sudden to be saying all that before saying hi.

Play it a little by ear. She might have a little extra to say in a reply than you'd think. And then it can be casual and natural, rather than simply her reaction to what you've said.

[xjokerz]

Okay, I'll try that and see how it goes. I really am interested in getting to know her. Thanks for the help. Any more information I should know before I try?

[kitkitkitty]

don't go OTT and just relax.

[xjokerz]

What happens if she doesn't reply? I don't wanna keep bothering her by sending her messages, but I do wanna talk..

[kitkitkitty]

if she doesn't reply then don't pester. but unless you're a horrible person/ you jump straight into declaring your feelings to her i don't see a reason for her not to reply.

[SapphireBerry]

Really, facebook?
I mean I post how I'm feeling on my status's but its not so easy to ignore a guys feelings in person rather than in a facebook message
I've tried this crap and trust me 'shut down'. Why is everyone relying on the internet? It's not the best way to express emotion trust me.
Write a song, that'll get your feelings across. Look, what I'm saying is you need to 'talk' to her when you DO see her make the most of it
then maybe get her alone on a date and tell her 'you like her' or tell her how you feel but not in a way that could unease her.

I think this one is the real deal. She has a great chance. She reminds me of another girl who I liked two years ago (and she liked me, but I was already in a relationship at the time).

And that line? Ouch! I'm guessing this girl isn't very unique then....
I wouldn't chase a girl cuz she reminds you of someone its quite offensive to be honest I wouldn't feel so special if you said to me "you remind me of Barbara my ex".
You are basically putting her in a category and not considering the fact this girl 'may be unique and like no one you've met before'.
Think about it.


Sapphire x

[SapphireBerry]

Um, I have something to say. I really need to let you know, since keeping it bottled up inside of me is causing a great deal of discomfort...

Ever since I began thinking of going to Eastern instead of Western, I was thinking why I would want to. Well, the reason is you. To be honest, you are why I would want to go to college there. This may sound weird, but there's something about you that attracts me. Obviously, we don't see each other much but from what I already know, you are really sweet and sincere. I think I would be interested in getting to know you.

Please don't take this bad. I really mean it. This whole year has been terrible for me in getting to know girls. It seems like they're all liars and they made me feel depressed. I don't even know what I did wrong. I just hope we can become friends and talk. That is, if it's okay..

And first off don't IMMEDIATELY get her feeling sorry for you. I understand this sort of message coming from a teen or college student.
Maybe if you are really comtemplating sending her a message on a social networking site then erase this message template and say:

'Hey there, hope everything is going alright for you. I just sent you this message because I'd like you to know I really think you are a nice girl and you're very sweet
Please don't feel uneased by this message but I'm really interested in getting to know you a bit more, I know we don't see each other so much but I really think you
are very wonderful. Please just take into consideration I'm quite an open person who is not fond of bottling up my feelings and this is why I really wanted to tell you.
I know Facebook aint the best way to get this across but I really mean it. I will feel a lot better getting this off my chest, and I hope you are interested in getting to
know me too.

Thank you for taking your time to read this

[Your name]
NOTE*: (mention the whole college thing if you want, though I think that bit sounds a little you know, strange)

Another note*: I myself, am pretty good with my words and a bonus; it's also coming from a girl's opinion :3

[SapphireBerry]

Oh yes and as kitty said don't bother her if she doesn't reply she's either busy or she may not be very interested, I wouldn't take her lack of interest too much to heart though
there are many girls out there that are interested in guys like you. You do sound very compassionate and considerate (not sure if they're the best words to describe you)

I dunno if you have already sent this message and my advice may not be of use to you but still best of luck