What do I do

[helpme411]

My boyfriend and I have been on and off for about a year. I love him so much and He is a great boyfriend, I couldnt ask for better. We've had some bad times in the past, where I was emotionally distant from him, because of past relationships and my mom's passing. We broke up 2x over the course of this time. We are now living together and like other couples, we argue. I just finished with college and am now in the process of finding a job. I have been a little depressed for the past 2-3 days, but for the most part our relationship is going great. We got into an argument last night where he told me


1. He doesnt know where this is going.
2. I'm not his wife, so I do not need to question him.
3. He doesnt feel the same passion as before.
4. He thought about cheating on me.

I told him that
1. Im suspicious of him because of some of his actions such as ( whispering on the phone, when he's speaking to a male friend of his, constantly being on the phone, he told me he only has 2 female friends who are "overseas")


Then this morning, we spoke about everything. I asked if I should leave, that answer was inconclusive.
He told me to take time away, which made me only think that he wanted free time, to cheat on me.

If anyone has any thoughts, please, do tell!

[girl68]

You might think he's this great boyfriend, but the reality is he isn't and he doesn't want to be one.

[lahnnabell]

Sounds like he's having reservations about making such a huge commitment so early in his life. You two live together, so for some people the next logical step is an engagement. Pretty sure you're both not ready for that. He seems to be afraid that if he doesn't get out now that he may very well be stuck, and he might regret it.

Don't take it as personally though. It sounds as though this has more to do with him being young and unsure of his own future. He's pulling away so that he can do some impartial thinking, and I think it best if you give him space.

[VincenzoG91]

You're headed for the third and probably final break-up:

1. He doesn't see a future together.
2. He resents you.
3. He doesn't love you anymore.
4. He's attracted to at least one other woman.

Start planning for the end, like locating a place to stay.

[duran_ii]

Do exactly what he doesn't expect you to do. Leave him and don't talk to him ever. If he truly cares about you, he will come back to you. If he's a great boyfriend, he wouldn't be doing this to you.

If he's convinced that he doesn't see a future with you, doesn't feel for you anymore and you suspect he's attracted to someone else, let him go. He'll find out the "greener pastures" were actually brown. You must always keep the ball in your court. If you act desperate or try to change just to appease him, you are setting yourself up for failure. You just got out of college, you're not ready for marriage just yet. Give yourself time, focus on being successful and really reflect on what you TRULY want in life. The right man will come for you without you even having to actively try.