wondering if my ex-bf is moving on?

[ginastar]

I dated this guy on and off for 7 years. We broke up before the summer and was back and forth(just talking) a little bit over the summer and I recently found out he was seeing another girl this summer too. When I found out I decided I will not speak to him at all and give him his space. Its been almost 2 wks of No Contact. I just cant picture him really liking or loving someone else, but I wonder if he is seeing it as fun for now and is going to try to go back out with me eventually; or is really moving on.....what do you think?

[stabbingwest]

Yeah, he has moved on. You said it yourself that he was with another girl. Whether they're in a committed relationship or not is irrelevant. It sucks and it hurts but it's time to forget about him and move on. The relationship ended for a reason and he seems content on leaving it that way. Try not to fall in the trap of "he may return", 99% of the time it is not the case. And would you really want to be with someone who could drop you like that and immediately find someone else??

[ginastar]

no i dont want him back but at the same time i want him to want me back, like i hate thinking that hes happy when im lonely.

[kitkitkitty]

you're lonely because you're letting yourself be- go out and have fun with mates. you don't have to flirt with guys or whatever but just relax and don't let yourself be put down by this. he's moved on and you know you need to do the same at some point. it doesn't have to involve a guy, you just need to keep your head up and realise you can have a great time being single.

[ginastar]

so u think he is moving on with this girl or is it a rebound. i wonder what time will tell?
what do u think?

[kitkitkitty]

whether it's a rebound or not he's still moving on. and you're right, time will tell. i'm told that pretty much everyone goes through a rebound stage after coming out of a relationship so this could indeed be his way of getting over you. i'd stay back as best you can so you don't get anymore hurt than needs be.

[ginastar]

thank you. it does help being on here. after about how long do u think i can assume its not a rebound?

[kitkitkitty]

well tbh, rebound relationships can last a week..... or months. and then the process starts again. it's dependant on so many things.

[ginastar]

thanks. whats tbh?

[VincenzoG91]

thanks. whats tbh?

tbh = to be honest (for people who are lazy typists)

[ginastar]

how can a guy go from being with a girl and caring about a girl for 7 years and then start liking someone else ??
i think he may be afraid of marriage, but then the typical story is he will marry the new girl

[duran_ii]

Whether it is a rebound or not is irrelevant. You clearly stated you don't want him back. That's all that matters.

I agree with everyone else here, if you don't want to be back with him, don't bother obsessing over this guy. He clearly made a bad choice in leaving the relationship. Just focus on being the best you can be physically, mentally and spiritually. You'll attract a much better man as a side effect. Don't waste your time trying to make this guy jealous, it's a negative attitude and it's only going to bite you in the ass. Maintain No Contact and don't bother entertaining his advances when his new relationship fails.

There's an old saying. "Live well. It is the best revenge."

[ginastar]

thank you. its hard though. it hurts. i have bad dreams about it still.
i do want better though, just scared that i may never fall for someone again.

[duran_ii]

thank you. its hard though. it hurts. i have bad dreams about it still.
i do want better though, just scared that i may never fall for someone again.

You will fall for someone again, and that person will be much better than what you had. Just focus on being the best you can be. Keep a positive attitude, and always tell yourself that you're desireable and a good catch. When you know what you want, and you're confident, you'll attract the right man. If you're insecure, you'll only attract men who will use you and discard you.

Trust me, just focus on living well. Focus on your work, your exercise and your friends. A good man will come along when you least expect it.

[ginastar]

thanks.............................