My girlfriend expresses, from time to time, that she thinks she relies on me too much or is afraid that she relies on me too much.
I don't know how to respond to this. And she is generally inconsolable for a bit.
Yes, I am here for her and supportive. Yes, I always lend an open ear when she has something to get off her chest, yes, I pay for meals and such 90% of the time when we go out on dates. Yes, I help her with computer problems cause she doesn't know a command prompt from PCI-E. But too me, these things do not seem excessive.
She has her own job, makes her own money, we don't live together, she hangs out with her own friends often, she has her own hobbies, she is pretty independent.
So when she says this to me it kind of baffles me. I'm not sure how to respond. I want her to know I will be there for her if she needs anything. But when I say that in response to her fear, it does not help, it makes it worse.
Any advice here?