My girlfriend and I had our first major sexual experience last weekend. we didn't have full on sex but we did everything else. Before now it was just making out and and some breast stuff.
Because of her upbringing, this is pretty new to her. After this night we spent almost the next 2 days straight together (not just sitting in bed though) til monday afternoon. And she says she feels closer than ever before, that no one has made her feel that way and that she is falling in love with me. I stopped by and saw her for an hour yesterday before work.
I was at work and we were chatting through text and she out of nowhere says
"She feels like everything is different" I asked why and she said "I feel like now that we have done that, alot of the mystery excitement and unknown is gone"
I responded by saying that I understand that feeling but on the flipside now that we have kind of let ourselves bear that to each other it makes me feel more comfortable and intimate knowing she is satisfied with me sexually and me her. So she said "So you feel the same"
I said yeah, maybe a little but I know that it's just because all of the wondering how you were sexually as gone so the anticipation of it is gone but replaced with a relaxed and intimate feeling.
Then she says
"You are so wonderful, I love spending time with you. I think we both know we need some time apart. I can feel you getting tired of me. We should cancel our plans tomorrow"
I asked why she thinks she can tell I am getting tired of her. because honestly, I am feeling closer and wanting to be with her more than I ever have at this point. Then she said
"You admitted it. You are doing everything right but it's normal to feel tired of the other person at this point in the relationship because things are less intense"
It kind of took me back and has had me stewing because I don't understand, I didn't admit to that, I am not tired of her, I feel like my desire to spend time with her is more intense than it has ever been.
Then she went to bed then she texted me when she woke up saying
"Good morning honey, I am going to not text or call you today because I know you need a break, but I want you to know I care about you, I'll talk to you tomorrow" I then said "Wait, babe, I feel like I was misunderstood, can I talk to you for a sec" And she said "How about tomorrow? Bye babe, have a wonderful day"
I am confused and needed to just get it off my mind. any feedback is appreciated.
Thanks