Getting dumped for a shallow reason?

[rescueme]

hello,
I was just wondering what the majority of males thought about this situation, and whether or not my ex was fair to break up with me on these grounds.
Basically we came to uni as a couple, and he got to know his flatmates and their freinds more as time went by, he himself used to be really shy and reserved, but these guys are wacky and fun and loud.... he started to get in with them more and sort of statred to be more like them (getting drunk more, doing different things, having in jokes with them) so I sort of got a bit left out.
I'm very shy myself, when we went to scoials I was ver quiet - basically because I couldnt get a word in edgeways- but also because as they lived together they had lots of in jokes I just didnt get; plus....I dont drink (due to an allergy) so didnt get quite as excitable. In addition, I was of the idea that I would leave im be mostly during the day (in lectures etc) so that we werent joined at the hip and he could have time with his friends then...and see me in the evenings/ socials- because thats what would happen in a normal relationship imo.
Anyway,a couple of the the reasons he gave when dumping me was that "you're too seperate from my friends....you used to make me laugh all the time, now you dont.....I dread having to take you out with us (because I'm too quiet basically)"
The other reasons I feel were just excues because they didnt add up.
Is it fair that I get comapred to friends and dumped because I am not like them (or him due to him chainging to fit in with them) ?
I just feel so hurt- because all I ever did was love him...yeah... I might not come across as fun etc but thats because towards the end he didnt really even bother to speak to me anymore...all he wanted with me was sex!
thanks

[Paperclip]

Nobody has to justify why they don't want to be with you to your standard. You grew apart, he didn't want to be with you anymore, enough said.

[teel]

This 'partying' personality of your bf can be his true one, and the shy guy you met was probably because of parental constraints - now after moving to uni he got loose, so he feels your personalities are not compatible any more. Basicallyt it's not your fault, and I think it's not even his... it's just how things turned out.

[Agape]

Is it fair that I get comapred to friends and dumped because I am not like them (or him due to him chainging to fit in with them) ?
I just feel so hurt- because all I ever did was love him...yeah... I might not come across as fun etc but thats because towards the end he didnt really even bother to speak to me anymore...all he wanted with me was sex!
thanks

Is it fair? . . . does it matter? . . . anyways

You two just grew apart in college . . . your interests and friendship groups diverged, and thus, you two diverged. . . no one's fault, just the way it is sometimes

Either way, the relationship ended and now you can find someone who is more compatible

[girl68]

That is not a "shallow reason" shallow would be you got a big zit, picked it and left a scar and then he dumped you because of it. He dumped you instead becasue as a college frat like boy having a shy reserved gf doesn't fit anymore. That is incompatibility not being shallow. Pick yourself up and move on. Look for boys who aren't into the whole heavy drinking partying mode.

[xxazurexx]

Couldn't have thought a great deal about you and if he dumped because you don't fit in with his lifestyle.

My ex liked to go pubbing and clubbing and socialising, I'm more reserved....he didn't dump me though - in fact he married me.

[thundersw]

You're just being yourself and that's not fair being dumped by that.
He's a jerk if he thinks you should be otherwise, but if you change your mind you can try magic mushrooms.