hello,
I was just wondering what the majority of males thought about this situation, and whether or not my ex was fair to break up with me on these grounds.
Basically we came to uni as a couple, and he got to know his flatmates and their freinds more as time went by, he himself used to be really shy and reserved, but these guys are wacky and fun and loud.... he started to get in with them more and sort of statred to be more like them (getting drunk more, doing different things, having in jokes with them) so I sort of got a bit left out.
I'm very shy myself, when we went to scoials I was ver quiet - basically because I couldnt get a word in edgeways- but also because as they lived together they had lots of in jokes I just didnt get; plus....I dont drink (due to an allergy) so didnt get quite as excitable. In addition, I was of the idea that I would leave im be mostly during the day (in lectures etc) so that we werent joined at the hip and he could have time with his friends then...and see me in the evenings/ socials- because thats what would happen in a normal relationship imo.
Anyway,a couple of the the reasons he gave when dumping me was that "you're too seperate from my friends....you used to make me laugh all the time, now you dont.....I dread having to take you out with us (because I'm too quiet basically)"
The other reasons I feel were just excues because they didnt add up.
Is it fair that I get comapred to friends and dumped because I am not like them (or him due to him chainging to fit in with them) ?
I just feel so hurt- because all I ever did was love him...yeah... I might not come across as fun etc but thats because towards the end he didnt really even bother to speak to me anymore...all he wanted with me was sex!
thanks