i need help becoming the "boss" in the relationship?

[kikusan95]

tomorrow i make one month with my boyfriend. he is the best when we are together. we talk a lot and have tons of fun. but sometimes i wish i wouldnt have to go to him just to have fun. i want him to come to me. but i dont want to make him. how do i give hints that i want him to do this? i havent been in many relationships and im 14 please help

[Spoonandfork]

lol, just ask him

[Agape]

14 and haven't been in many relationships . . . understandable.

start asking him, make him come your place or something - make the relationships more even and less one-sided with you doing all the work

[kikusan95]

14 and haven't been in many relationships . . . understandable.

start asking him, make him come your place or something - make the relationships more even and less one-sided with you doing all the work

ah i see thank you. i dont want to seem to forceful or sound whiney though

[doppelgaenger]

Invite him to your place.

[MerryH]

ah i see thank you. i dont want to seem to forceful or sound whiney though

Voicing your opinions and feelings isn't forceful or whiny in itself. You've got to learn how to bring up stuff that bothers you (in an appropriate way, of course.)

So yeah, what others have said - invite him places, have him meet you somewhere. Just stop always being the one to go to him. If he can't be bothered to lift a finger to see you, well then, he doesn't get to see you as much.

[kikusan95]

Voicing your opinions and feelings isn't forceful or whiny in itself. You've got to learn how to bring up stuff that bothers you (in an appropriate way, of course.)

So yeah, what others have said - invite him places, have him meet you somewhere. Just stop always being the one to go to him. If he can't be bothered to lift a finger to see you, well then, he doesn't get to see you as much.

oh, that is true. thank you so much