Hi Everyone
Found out yesterday that my partner has been texting another woman and have arranged to meet up in a hotel after their christmas party in december. They had a thing going many years ago but bumped into each other 3 weeks ago by chance but swapped numbers and have been texting regularly. He has been acting differently lately, with his phone going off at all times and when he left it behind to go to work, I went thru it (i know, i know!!) and found the messages. I rang her up and she apologised and said that nothing had happened between them, they were just flirting and it was all harmless fun. However, on going thru his phone, i found some pictures of another woman, with all her bits out and also a picture of my partner naked. When I spoke to the second woman, she said that it had started off as a text sent to a wrong number and that she had never met my partner but had exchanged photos and graphic texts. Obviously I confronted my partner when he got in and he admitted it all and said he was sorry, stupid etc and wants me to forget about it and I'm the one he loves and wants to spend the rest of his life with. He said it was just an ego boost, nice for someone else to find him attractive and that he had no intention of going to the christmas party at all - even tho he was the one who suggested it in his text. He is saying that he hasn't done anything physically so he hasn't cheated on me and has always remained faithful and doesn't want me to give up on him and wants me to fight to save our relationship. We have children together and he doesn't want any of them to suffer - which i understand - but should i just put up with his behaviour?? Two years ago, when i was pregnant with my last child, I found out he was texting a woman at my son's football club and at that time, he told me he would never do it again, i meant too much to him etc and yet i find myself in the same situation again. how do i know whether i will be sitting here saying the same thing in another two years?? I do love him, but surely if he loved me as much as he said, he wouldn't have done it. is he just sorry that i found out?? if i hadn't have said anything, would it still be going on? would they really have got together at the firm's party?? I just feel sick and so betrayed. I wanted us to be so happy together and then i find out that he has texted her while he has been in our house and it just makes me feel so stupid. At the moment i don't want him near me but then if i keep pushing him away, is he more likely to start texting again?? he said that he admits that it is all his fault and nothing that i have done or haven't done but that he didn't think he was cheating because it was just flirting on a phone and he hasn't actually touched anyone. am i just making more out of this?? i don't know what to do for the best. is it easy to build the trust back up again? any views/opinions would be great