DO I love her?

[espd]

I've been dating someone for the past 3 1/2 years. In simple words, our relationship has been a rollercoaster. Constant ups and downs. We always fight and argue about everything. Yet the good times have been great.
Over the past 3 years we have broken up about 4 times (on average for about 1 month). Now we have broken up again. This time initiated by me.
The thing is before this last breakup, things had actually changed. we stopped arguing , she stopped complaining as much, she started being more understanding but yet I still felt i wanted out. However now i look back and I am not sure if that's really what I want anymore. I wonder if my main motivation was the way things were before. I stop to think and I can't figure out a single justification for what I did. Everything I would have complained about has changed.
I wonder if the fact I am going through all these things means it's not the right thing for me. If you truly love someone should you even have doubts? should it not be clear?

[MerryH]

There was a reason you broke up with her. What was it?

[hello1]

I think your so used to the volatile relationship that your still going around the same patterns. Maybe even though she's changed, too much water has passed under the bridge?

[Agape]

"Over the past 3 years we have broken up about 4 times (on average for about 1 month)"

Um, this should be a sign that you two aren't really working