"i wanted someone based on personality not looks" --> "she invited me back to hers and we slept together"
Well apparently personality isn't everything - be honest with yourself, and liking her looks isn't that bad anyways . . . and IF you want to be friends with this girl THEN be friends with this girl.
btw, I think you care too much about what other people thing - all this 'mate' stuff is confusing . . .all you need to care about is this girl and you
You post, you ask questions, you give facts --> I reply, I give quotations, I have opinions