When Like hurts....i need advice asap

[bondmaybach230]

Hello,
Ok so i've been seeing this guy about a month and a half, and he tells me that we are free to see other people. And he was already seeing other pplz but the first month, i thought it was understood that we are just trying to work on us. Anywayz i really like him alot but it seems like it's not the same with him. Although he admitted to me that he likes me alot, it lacks in actions. He never answers his phone or text when am with him. I always answer mine, and he says he doesn't trust me. Yes we've had sex already ....So now i dunno what to do....HELP??? I want him to show more for me that he cares, we dont really do stuff together at all. No cute "get to you know you things". should i just let him go? Plus he has certain bad habits that are really getting to my last nerves (smoking).

[MerryH]

Sounds like you want more from him than he's willing to give. If you don't do "get to know you things" then what do you do? Just ****? If you're cool with just meeting up to screw, then...I guess keep doing what you're doing.

[bondmaybach230]

nah am not cool with just meeting n screwing...we've been on three dates that's it.....

[Agape]

"he tells me that we are free to see other people. And he was already seeing other pplz but the first month"

Perhaps you can try and make it more intimate and make it be less of an open relationship

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"He never answers his phone or text when am with him. I always answer mine, and he says he doesn't trust me."

Don't quite get that, if it was really open why would he care? . . . this might be a sign of something

[Rixy]

I think if he doesn't want it as much as you want, you should take a decision for yourself.
But you have to find out what YOU really want... If he cannot give it to you, you cannot force him.