breaking the friendship

[the-idiot]

It's a long story so I will try to keep it as short as possible
I'm in love with my female friend for years now, it started when I told her how I feel and she rejected me but we became friends (I'm friend zoned). I thought my feelings would fade away, but they didn't. During that period of 4-5 years I've told her few more times but nothing changed, I'm stuck in the friend zone forever. Now I realize I can't go on being just her friend, I need to walk away and forget her because hanging out with her only gives me false hope and I end up listening about her new boyfriends and what she does with them.
My question is, do I disappear from her life silently or do I tell her why we can't hang out anymore? The second option would probably mean it's over for good, while with the first option I do get to come back in a few months/year/years but I think that would just make me start all over

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Disappear silently, and if she asks why, then tell her the truth.

[Agape]

"During that period of 4-5 years I've told her few more times but nothing changed" . . .yep, move on

"do I disappear from her life silently" YES because "I can't go on being just her friend, I need to walk away and forget her because hanging out with her only gives me false hope" . . . limit contact and don't make any reason to be with her

[and_chinita12]

If you walk away make sure that she will know your reasons. Try to compose an email or letter.. Talking face to face will just make things complicated.. (or if you are a fan of confrontation) She needs to know why you're going away, make sure she'll understand.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

"If you walk away make sure that she will know your reasons. Try to compose an email or letter.. Talking face to face will just make things complicated.. (or if you are a fan of confrontation) She needs to know why you're going away, make sure she'll understand."

Don't bother with this unless she asks why you don't want to hang out with her anymore. You need to get into the mindset of not doing anything for her.