Getting played by a couple?

[Nimrod44]

I met a really great guy at work a couple years ago. He was recently divorced. Of course I didn't do anything about it since we worked together but got to know him quite well. We share a lot in common. Well, I no longer work with him due to a lay off. So we are both free.

At work this guy was quite close to another co-worker. They kept claiming they were "just friends" but spent most of their time together at work and off. During this time I got the feeling often that this co-worker was trying to get me to talk to this guy, even telling me to ask him to attend a ball game together. Yet I'd see the two of them flirt and carry on even at work. There were lots of rumors about them being together. Tons of mixed messages.

Now that I don't work with either one of them I finally asked the co-worker if she was seeing this guy or not. There was no yes or no answer, only a vague "no matter what the circumstance is, my friends are my friends and will formulate their own opinions...and they will still be my friend." WTF?

We are all adults and friendships are based on honesty and truth. Without that what good is it?

[Agape]

Hmm . . . kinda a secret and strange situation . . . don't really know what to make of ir.

Do you just want to be friends with this guy? Or do you just want to know what's going on?

[MerryH]

"no matter what the circumstance is, my friends are my friends and will formulate their own opinions...and they will still be my friend."

I have no clue what this means. What a weird answer to give. Why don't ask him if he's seeing anyone? If he says no, then ask him out (assuming you're interested in dating him.)

[Nimrod44]

I have no clue what this means. What a weird answer to give. Why don't ask him if he's seeing anyone? If he says no, then ask him out (assuming you're interested in dating him.)

I am certainly interested. He is terrific and we share a lot in common. I asked the (now former) co-worker first about their relationship status hoping for an honest and straightforward answer before approaching him. I didn't want to seem like the bitch trying to steal her man if that's the case. That would put us all in a more awkward situation and for me to appear as the nasty one. That's not me and I'm not into games.