being friends with your ex...is it worth it?

[ricerocket1]

well like the title says, since this is majority a female viewer/reader i want to hear all your input

my situation:

been broken up for a year now (2+ years together, 1 year living with each other)
during break up no contact, if anything minimal

what happen recently
i wanted to see our dog, who i havent seen in awhile prolly a good year
while i was picking up my dog, she said she wasn't doing anything so i asked her if she wants
to grab something to eat. which she said yes

during dinner:

i think it went very well atleast in my point of view
she keeps saying about this "guy" so i just asked if this is your bf and she said yea, so i
told her well i don't think your bf would like if you describe him as just this "guy"

she kept bringing things about the past like how we used to live and stuff and i just smile and change the
subject

made small talk if anything, asked hows her family and all that fun stuff
but during our dinner i felt like there was something off about her, just not sure what it was and
i can't stop thinking about it.

my other question to you girls or guys reading this is, this is normal right? i mean i care for her
as a friend and after all this things ive been doing there was that one constant thing that i miss about
her is her friendship...is it foolish of me to try to be friends with her?
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[Agape]

It could be worth it? but usually I don't think it works out. . . as for the awkwardness, it was because it was the 1st time of 'real' contact

[Poetic_Partner]

First off:
"...she keeps saying about this "guy" so i just asked if this is your bf and she said yea, so i
told her well i don't think your bf would like if you describe him as just this "guy"..."
Classy. Kudos to you here. Likely, she was afraid of how you would react, so was testing the waters with "guy".

As to the friends thing - it can be done. Depends on her, on you, and on any SOs of either of you. Not always easy, but can be done.

-PP

[Boisdevie]

Leave her alone and move on

[xxazurexx]

Why did it take you a year and to suddenly want to see your dog? I'm thinking you made the dog an excuse and to get back in touch with her.

I don't think friends with exes works and especially when you still carry feelings ....which you obviously do. Please don't deny it because people aren't stupid.

[Petit Papillon]

No it's not a good idea . It's never a good idea.