Need Help!

[strangerykola]

Hello everyone,


As I said in the last topic, my GF broke up with me due life circumstances. Since then I been doing the NC which has been almost two months. However couple days aggo my brother-in-law died and he was like a father to me. I have lived with him and my sister for about 11 years. And I needed someone close to talk to, by convenience she had texted me on the same day and I cave in, again.

I went to see her, at first things were kinda awkward because she was having a super bad week but when she asked about my family I told her what happened and we both started crying. After a good hour of us talking , she told me what was going on in her life and started crying. She then started holding my hand, kissing me acting like my girlfriend. I didn't do anything about it because it was very comforting and thats all I wanted in that moment.

We went to dinner and she started saying that she loved me and calling me by the cute names she once used. When we got to her house I got a invitation to watch a movie with her. I cave in once again, as we started watching the movie she got very comfortable took her pants off and we started cuddling and kissing.The next thing I know its morning and we are both waking up. As I leave I asked her if this was a one time thing and she tried to imply that it was what I wanted and I said that I was not the one that broke up with and was confused.

Now I dont know how to take this and I feel like crap because I feel as we just broke up again. Was she just doing that because of pity due my brother-in-law's death?
Should I continue with NC and forget what happened?
I really dont know what to do and I need some help

Thank you

[strangerykola]

Anyone? I really need some advice. I am afraid to make the wrong move.

[reeba]

It is called 'break up sex'. That is what you had. You get back into the groove of the familiar, reminence about the past, and bingo you end up back into bed. It means nothing. Once someone breaks up with you, it takes words to bet the relationship back on track, not sex.

This phenomena is why it is a bad idea to 'hang' with an ex too soon after the break up. My guess there are very very few people on this site who hasn't experienced the 'break up sex'.

[Agape]

Key phrases

"I cave in, again." and "I cave in once again"

don't do this, that's all I can say

[vashti]

sex is very comforting; I would just look at it as her offering comfort and compassion in your time of need. Don't over-think it.

[Bella82]

I agree with Vashti -- it's hard not to read into why she did what she did, but it does sound like she was trying to comfort you. It also sounds like you still have some questions about what happened. What don't you ask her?