Originally Posted by
benny
I realise that. I also know that it's naive to think we WILL be married. But I don't see the sense in planning on breaking up. Surely we should be planning our lives together, and if things go wrong, we'll deal with it then? Or is it better to think of it the way she is? That we won't think about the far future, because we'll only be disappointed if we do break up? I'd rather be optimistic about things, and face problems only if they actually arise. But I really don't want to talk to her about this stuff now. Not while we're not physically together. I'm afraid she's losing interest (since she used to be fine about talking about things like that) and I don't want to seem clingy. Just to clear up, I'm not actually going to get engaged until I'm ready to set up a home, and provide financial stability. Which could be up to ten years from now.