Why not guy friends?

[foxyblunews]

What are your reasons to have friends that are female when you’re engaged and about to get married? Or even if you’re married and want to have female friends? I can’t see why would a man want to go out with other female friends when they are married or about to get married. The only thing I could think of is that the guy and his fiancee or wife have an open relationship. She is allowed to date male friends and he is allowed to date female friends.

Are the guys looking for female friends who are much better, smarter, outgoing, and well-received by others, popular, and who want to be put on the pedestal? Shouldn’t they be looking at their fiancees or wives that way instead of some other female friends? How many guys out there are honest and faithful enough to keep the relationships friendly or will they find excuses to get into casual affairs with their female friends?

I would have to admit that I would stay away from guys who are married or about to get married even though the guy said that he only wanted to be friends. It would be so awkward to cross the line and finding yourself explaining that it wasn’t what the other person was thinking. Either that the guy would accuse the girl of trying to get too close even though he only wanted to be friends.

A friend is someone you would look after, protect, and support in every way. You would always find time to be there for the sad and torubled times when it would be needed most. If a guy is engaged and wants to do all these things, than he is involved with mulitple partners. More over, if you’re married, what do you talk about when with another female friend or where do you take your female friend on a date? Why wouldn’t the guy spend the time to talk or play dates with his fiancee or wife? It doesn’t make sense at all.

[girl68]

My man is marrying me and he has tons of lady friends. Friends can be opposite sex- why NOT? You clearly don't trust him, has he given you reason not to? I trust my guy, know the lady friends personally and have absolutely no problem with him and them.

And having FRIENDS is completely different than DATING in OPEN RELATIONSHIPS. Don't confuse them.

[YouAreBeautiful]

I think this truly depends on the dynamic of the relationship and the two people in it. There are some who consider this entirely inappropriate, some who find it completely puzzling that anyone would object There's no answer for this one way or the other. I think if a person is unsure on where to side in this decision consider a few things: Examine your feelings on the subject. Are you comfortable with your spouse having relationships with people of the opposite sex. What kind of partners are you interested in? What kind of personality types do you go for? Really outgoing people who have friends of both sexes? People with only a small group of buddies? Then ask yourself if your feelings on the subject and the type of person you are interested in romantically can work out.

[xxazurexx]

What are your reasons to have friends that are female when you’re engaged and about to get married? Or even if you’re married and want to have female friends? I can’t see why would a man want to go out with other female friends when they are married or about to get married. The only thing I could think of is that the guy and his fiancee or wife have an open relationship. She is allowed to date male friends and he is allowed to date female friends.

Are the guys looking for female friends who are much better, smarter, outgoing, and well-received by others, popular, and who want to be put on the pedestal? Shouldn’t they be looking at their fiancees or wives that way instead of some other female friends? How many guys out there are honest and faithful enough to keep the relationships friendly or will they find excuses to get into casual affairs with their female friends?

I would have to admit that I would stay away from guys who are married or about to get married even though the guy said that he only wanted to be friends. It would be so awkward to cross the line and finding yourself explaining that it wasn’t what the other person was thinking. Either that the guy would accuse the girl of trying to get too close even though he only wanted to be friends.

A friend is someone you would look after, protect, and support in every way. You would always find time to be there for the sad and torubled times when it would be needed most. If a guy is engaged and wants to do all these things, than he is involved with mulitple partners. More over, if you’re married, what do you talk about when with another female friend or where do you take your female friend on a date? Why wouldn’t the guy spend the time to talk or play dates with his fiancee or wife? It doesn’t make sense at all.

Right on and ditto.

[Poetic_Partner]

I get along much better with women than men. Not that I don't get along with men - they just rarely get past the "acquaintance" phase.

It's not even directly because of their gender either - I just think my personality is more atuned to the feminine than masculine side of American life.

-PP