Where sould I go from here?

[will25280]

Hi everyone, I'm Will. I have a quite complicated dilema and I need some advice from you on what you think I should do. Ok, where to start?
Well this is a situation that has been pretty much on going for quite a few years really. I met this girl, Jane, about 11 years ago, I know it sounds cheesy and all that, but from the minute I first saw her I did fall for her, there was just something there that I could not explain, apart from the fact I think she is so beautiful and the most wonderful person! But I am 31 now and yes I have met many beautiful girls in my time, but not one of them had the effect that she had.
Anyway, we became friends, close friends. We would meet up for all sorts, drinks, coffee, shopping, anything that friends do. At the time she was with a partner, she had been for some time and they were talking about engagements. Needless to say I kept my feelings to myself, but it was very noticable that something was there. Occasionally we would catch each others eye contact, but unlike you do with most people, we would hold that contact, and it was when that started happening that we both knew something was there. Anyway it all started to come out one night, it was her birthday and we were all out celebrating, and me and Jane ended up very passionately kissing.
Well there are a lot of other details that would take up to much of your time to read, but anyway to cut a long story short, we obviously remained very close friends, and the whole time we both knew that there was something special, but it wasn't meant to be at that time, and I ended up having to move away because of work. We kept in touch of course. I then met someone myself, where I had moved to and I came to have kids with this girl. But always, Jane was never very far from my thoughts. She came to visit us a couple of times, and even then, when we both had partners we would still share our little moments, never anything more than eye contact, which I know sounds silly but I am hoping that someone will know exactly what I mean.
But complications started to arrise, my current partner picked up on it and it started to cause problems, and gradually over the following months I lost contact with Jane.
It wasn't until recently that we found each other again, and we instantly clicked back together. After not seeing or hearing from each other in nearly 6 years, it was like it had never been more than a day. Over them years I knew I still loved her, i didn't know why, I tried to fight it but it didn't work. And when I saw her again, I was so so happy.
Anyway, she has recently ended a relationship, and I hope this doesn't sound to bad, because I don't mean it to, but mine is also coming to an end, it has been for a long time, but because of children we have kept going but neither of us are happy.
I need help on what people think. She knows I love her, i don't think she realises to what extent though.
Please be honest.
Will

[sweetkissesforu]

Maybe your soulmates and i feel you should try if you dont you will never no

[will25280]

I would certainly love to believe we are indeed Soulmates and as she has said herself, we seem to instantly bond when we are together. In all these years my feelings have never changed for her. And the mixed signals do not help to make any decision easier. One minute she sends flirty text messages and compliments me and us, and how good we are when together, and how she thinks i'm cute and sweet and a star and dateable and the next she says things like, "Lets not change and then we will always be great" and "If it were meant to be it wouldv'e happened all them years back". Is this her way of telling me as gently as possible "No"? If so then so be it, I would be happy to just have her in my life as a friend, i'm not denying for one second that it would hurt like hell!!
But I have to know were this could go, I have bottled up these feeling for so long, and I feel I am in danger of blurting it all out, and possibly not only blowing any chance of being the very lucky man but also of losing a very much loved freind.
I have never been particularly good at translating emotional signal, and have many times got it wrong, which is why i asked people for help this time because I so badly do not want to make the wrong decision and make a mess of things.