I've never had a girlfriend before and I recently gave up on liking a girl I've liked for an extremely long time. I guess I never got her cause I'm the "nice guy" with all of the girls I'm friends with. Anyway I was venting to one of my close friends and we started talking about how I can improve in some areas, what she likes in a guy etc. She suggested that it would be best for me if I stopped beating myself up and trying so hard and to just make friends with a ton of girls and try to have fun, be nice but not super super nice like how I've been, and see what happens. I guess the point she was trying to make was to just have fun and have no expectations so I don't kill myself over all of this.
Im just kind of questioning it because I'm not very good when it comes to meeting people (I only have about 5 friends that are girls and I've known them for an extremely long time). I also noticed when she told me about one of the new guys she met in college, he was saying things to her that I wouldn't even think of saying til I've known the girl for months, and it works... and I think its a problem that I can't do that. I try not to think about it but its pretty depressing walking to class and every 5 seconds I see a cute couple and its like they are all taunting me lol.
Sorry for the wall of text, after re-reading that I realize I'm just venting and didn't even ask a question. So I guess I'm just looking for advice or insight on how to do what she says I should do, and I guess how to flirt... I've heard that I'm extremely sarcastic and sometimes pretty funny with the teasing and stuff, but for some reason I just can't do it with any new girl I meet until its too late and I don't know why. So yeah any advice would be appreciated, thanks.