Ok I desperately need your advice; I am so confused & upset right now. So Yesterday was like a sledge hammer to the heart, it's been a stressful week for me what with all the essays (I'm a student) of all my courses suddenly all due in next week, admittedly I should have seen this coming but basically work has caught up with me. Coupled with that, I am the only one to lift a finger in keeping the flat clean (my girlfriend doesn't live with me I'm in student accommodation and she is a medical secretary). Yesterday I worked flat out all day on my essays, came home relatively late, slaved away in the kitchen so as to provide space with which to cook, cooked & ate, and was about to fetch A (my girlfriend) from the car park when H (a mate) and his mates storm into the flat drunk and stoned as can be! So off I go to the car park, get in her car and say that I don't want to bring her to mine because of that, and that we should go out instead, and that I was a little pissed off at them cos all I wanted was a quite night in after a stressful day of work, and then A sent me an absolute cruise missile and asked if we could just be friends...There is "this is a bad time" and "OMG WHY IN GOD'S NAME ARE YOU SAYING THIS NOW OF ALL TIMES!!!" But I didn't say that, I merely said "explain".

(This section is lengthy so if you don't want to read skip to "THE SITUATION")
I am extremely confused as to her reasons. The gist of it was "I don't see a future for us", "why?", "we both live in different worlds, your a student, I'm working full time", "what's wrong with that?", "well say we moved in together next year, I'd basically be paying my rent & you wouldn't, cos your parents would be supporting you", "I can't really help that yet, I mean I can get a part time job if you want, I mean hell it's not like I don't need work experience anyway so it would benefit me also", "I know it's not your fault though, but that's not the point", "So what is?", "That I might end up resenting you for it, which wouldn't be fair on you", "But you know it would only be temporary, my parents will not support me forever, as soon as I graduate I will be after a career, I don't think you should throw away what we have because of a fairly minor temporary problem", "But that's what, 1.5 years away, I don't know if I want to wait that long!", "Are you saying I'm not worth the wait?", "No, it's not really to do with you", "But that makes no sense, how can you be thinking of finishing with me when I haven’t done anything wrong?! Does this amount to a "it's not you it's me" situation?", "I wouldn't use that cliché but essentially yes", "But surely if the problems are with you and not me, then unless you solve them it doesn't matter who you are with, you will never be happy!", "I would rather be alone than unhappy", "Well first off would you be happy alone cos I'm not sure you would, I know I wouldn't and you told me yourself you are a relationship person, and second you don't have to accept being unhappy, these issues we can deal with", "I just don't think that after 5 months we should even have to be having such discussions", "I know it seems like that, but thing is, this is what all relationships are like, take my parents for example, they have been married for close on 30 years (not sure how long exactly), and have they argued, omfg yes! There have been times where they have argued so much I've wondered why they even got together in the first place, but they must see something in each other to be worth all that because here I am as evidence that it worked!", "I just think after 5 months it should be easier than this", "Not necessarily, relationships are challenging, but its how you deal with those challenges that defines who you are, and at the end of the day, if you want something you have to work at it, but also you don't have to work through it alone, whatever issues you have I am more than happy to help with", "but you shouldn't have to", "It's not a matter of should or shouldn't, I want to, because I care about you and want you to be happy, I mean what issues exactly are we talking about here?", "Just niggly things like communication, not taking things seriously, how many of our conversations spiral into debate and your really hard to read and I often don't know if you are as serious, about us as I am", "Would I be reacting like this if I wasn't, A I'm not like everyone else who would probably just shout at you and storm off, I value this relationship enough to fight for it. I told you at the start I don't f*ck with my emotions unless I'm serious, also communication? that's easily sorted, as is taking things seriously, as is debating, I actually thought you enjoyed debates but now that I know your not keen I won't do it any more problem solved, I swear I will take YOU and US seriously openly, & to communicate more and respond quicker, simple, these are minor issues that can be easily dealt with", "Ok look I didn't come here to negotiate with you, I came here to say my piece, put up with you shouting at me and storming off and then go home, I didn't realise you would react like this!" (should be noted I was quite tearful at this point) "You underestimate how much you mean to me, we are clearly attracted to each other as the past 5 months has proved, and we are clearly compatible socially the fact that you want to be my "friend" proves a social connection, so it's not sex for sex's sake, and where mutual attraction and social compatibility are both present, where really is the problem? besides minor issues that I swear to you we can deal with, I seriously think your making a mistake by throwing away everything we have despite the fact that neither of us has done anything wrong! If the problem is the future then deal with it in the future, if it's you not me, then stay with me and let me help you! & if its a question of waiting too long then know that it will get easier not harder because the me of two years from now will get closer and closer and I will become more and more like him over time, now is the most unlike him as I'm going to get", "Like for a start I don't want to stay with you just because I feel sorry for you, or because of your silver tongue, this is why my friend's and family don't know about this because they like you and would try to talk me round and influence my decision, and this needs to be MY decision", "I'm not saying you stay with me because you feel sorry for me, or just don't want to upset people or because you are afraid of what might happen if you don't, I'm not J (reference to her ex who was abusive & threatened her a lot), neither am I saying that if you end it now I will exactly be happy about it, I won't, I will be absolutely distraught, that's not my point, my point is we really shouldn't waste a perfectly good relationship unnecessarily, and breaking up now would be COMPLETELY unnecessary!"...

(Long awkward silence)

"Ok how is this, compromise for now, in terms of face book and as far as our friends are concerned we are still together, unofficially we try being friends until the new year, which will give us time to get our heads straight about what we want, after which we have a real long talk about what we want to do, how is that?"
"Well I think that is the best I'm going to get as you clearly seem unhappy, but thank you, thank you for giving "us" a chance"

THE SITUATION
So yeh it wasn't those exact words of course cos it was a two hour conversation but in summary we are officially still together but unofficially playing this whole sharade of friendship till January at which point we will see where we stand. Basically the next coming weeks are going to be amongst the hardest I have ever faced, essays, exams and saving my relationship...wow, the stakes could not be higher!

So I really need your help, any advice now would be so appreciated. Did I do the right thing? What should I do? Also any information about your relationships (as examples of ones that worked or not) would help. Have you ever broken up before? And if so how did you get back together? If at all?

Please I need some help here...
S
xxx

p.s. I also Love Her, which complicates the whole "just let her go cos she is too much trouble" answer, I honestly don't care how much trouble she is, I just want HER.