How often do you think is 'enough' to have a relationship?

[IamTHATguy]

I'm weighing up my options with a girl i'm seeing, liked her for years, we've had our ups and downs, but at the moment we're very close and have been for a couple months.

Only thing in the back of my mind is we see eachother for 1/2 days a week (5-7hours).

I'm not in an official relationship with her now but i do miss her at times, and can imagine if i go and get myself more attached it'll become worse, but then on top of that i'm wondering if she'll get fed up only seeing me for a little bit..

So what is your situation? and what would you call enough? is 1/2 days not enough?

[xxazurexx]

In all of my relationships we saw each other every night - it was the way we'd both wanted it.

1/2 days to me, is just casually seeing someone.
1 to 2 days a week is what I'd be looking for now though and because I'm not interested in anything heavy or serious.

[RockNRoll]

I wouldn't say that you guys are very closed, if you see each other only 5-7 hours a week. It sounds like you are not sure, if she want to see more of you? Try to initiate meeting up more often and see how she responds. If you really like someone, it never feels like "enough".

[girl68]

I agree if you both like eachother the same amount there isn't really "too much" unless of course you live and work together- then I'm just like WHOA.

[IamTHATguy]

Guess you're right, but she does quite big hours at work, like 52 a week at times, so she's gunna' be pretty tired i guess?

Another thing is, when we're together she's very close to me, tells me she likes me and we just kiss and cuddle etc. but then when i'm not with her, she sometimes doesn't text me back, and i don't even speak to her loads anymore, so don't really undersrand the situation..

[indr]

I guess atleast once in a while you should spend more then 1/2 day of quality time... this will make her happy.

[girl68]

there's no need to be up in her business day unless it's something important otherwise let her get her work done. what she really wants is you at home with her. quality time.

[Boisdevie]

Try spending more time with her and more cuddling - you guys could consider 'shock horror' having sex perhaps?
And what the hell is an official relationship? Do you have to take out an ad in the newspaper to announce to everyone that you are 'official'?