For the past 3 or 4 months now me and this guy have been hanging out romantically.
I've known about him for a year, but we've just now began to really hang out. Things were beginning to heat up, but I told him that I wasn't ready to be in a relationship any time soon, and that I would prefer to be lovers. And I explained my definition of it to him. Basically, be there for each other mentally, emotionally, and sexually. Without all the drama and chaos and STRINGS of being in a committed relationship. Be there with each other, then at the end, walk away and return back to our lives. And I did this because we live in different cities. 2 and a half hours away from each other. I usually see him on the weekends when he comes down to visit with friends, and sometimes I don't even see him then. That way, if he met someone he wouldn't be attached to me, and blah blah blah. Plus, I'm not emotionally ready to give my heart up right now.
So anyway.
This weekend I spent Saturday with my ex. And it did go physical.
Well I told Tom about it, and he just kind've flipped out!
He didn't want me touching him, he didn't want me trying to soothe him. And I just kept asking, why does this make such a big deal, since we were NOT dating, and he kept saying 'It just does."
Then he started in on how it would feel if he went and slept with another girl, and when I replied that it wouldn't bother me because we are FREE PEOPLE, he went on in to his whole emo routine about how he couldn't get laid even if he wanted to, and yadda yadda!
So now I feel like a total bitch, and he won't talk to me.
Did I do something wrong?