What are posters' views on old photos etc?
Two contrasting tales for ye:
1) When my mum moved in with my stepdad, he still had a picture of his first wife in a fairly prominent position. After about a month my ma politely suggested that it was time to pack it away, and my stepdad kinda came to his senses and was like, 'Oh God..yeah, of course.'
2) About 2 months into the relationship with my ex I lent her my laptop as hers was broken. All hell broke loose when she found some pictures of my ex of 6 years ago. One of the pictures kinda looks a bit racey, but the reality is that it's friggin' hot out here in Bangkok (she's topless, but covering everything, including her face, with her hands and elbows) and she's lying on the bed cos we didn't have a sofa at that point in our little flat! My ex was pretty damn shy, and I was merely playing around with a new camera.
Obviously I'd love to hear consoling words like, 'She needs to get a grip,' etc, but I do wonder if it's not a little bad that I've kept them all this time. My other ex, in between photo girl and recent ex, never mentioned it, so either she never came across it, or didn't let it bother her.
My point to the recent ex was that it was an old, pretty much forgotten picture that is buried amongst 1000s from 2004. It ain't in my wallet, or in a frame. I also reassured her that I finished the relationship with the girl in the picture, and was crazy about her (the girl wailing and moaning).
Is it more of a guy thing to keep old photos and letters?