So a quick summary: There's a guy I've been friends with for the past couple years. We live a plane ride away and have been talking a lot more since he told me he had feelings for me when he visited me last spring. I've kind of been on the fence about where I want the relationship to go for the past six months. After much agonizing, and another really enjoyable visit in the fall, I've more or less decided on relationship, but am waiting to tell him until he's physically in my presence in three weeks.
I am also a very private person and [URL="http://www.loveforum.net/personal-development-forum/47957-i-have-trouble-sharing-details-about-myself-friends.html"]have a very hard time sharing details of my life with people[/URL]. Well this sort of bothers my guy friend. He says that he'd have more of a problem with it if we were actually dating, but I think he wishes I would talk more about him because he wants me to like him and this is typically a sign of liking a person. He says he wants to run and shout at the top of his lungs about me.
So, I told him I would work on this, because I understand where he is coming from and he's not pressuring me or anything, and is actually being really patient with me. So I've been trying to tell a few people every now and then about recent developments in my life and tonight talked a little bit about him to one of my friends over dinner. She pretty much told me I was being stupid and irrational when I told her it was long distance. She asked me if it was feasible for him to live anywhere close to me in the near future and I said he is planning on coming out here in a year. She essentially told me I was wasting my time.
I know it's a weird situation. We met online (I didn't tell her that after her outburst about long distance) but we've talked almost every day for the past several years and on the phone every night since the spring. I know he's serious about this, and I feel I'm being smart by taking things slowly. But she totally shocked me with her reaction tonight. Are long distance relationships really that frowned upon, or is she jumping to conclusions based on her own needs from a relationship? I was always under the impression that they worked for some and definitely not for others....and I think I could handle this. Sure it's hard and everything but I've never been one for instant gratification nor dating. He and I have such a beautiful vibe between the two of us and I don't really want to give that up, nor do I view our experiences together as a waste just because I can't be with him every weekend.
I guess I'm a little hurt. Not to mention my fears of sharing details are more supported now...and I'm scared to tell anyone else. Advice please?