Where Do You Meet Women?

[erik]

Is this whole meeting women in grocery stores, at the gym for real or is it just pick up artist bs catering to men who don't go to clubs or bars?

[girl68]

through friends of friends... some guy bring out their "buddies" and I meet greet and like these buddies... that sort of randomness.

[Gratedwasabi]

I meet TONS of women at bookstores and coffee shops. I have never hit on a woman at a gym, it's really creepy and sleazy. I have picked up women at stores before, though, but bookstores and coffee shops are ideal.

Why? They tend to be much more open to conversation when they're looking for books, especially if you can speak intelligently about the topic and suggest something. Coffee shops they tend to be very relaxed and ice breakers are suuuuper easy (here all the coffee shops are always crowded so just walk over and "Hi there, it's pretty full in here.. do you mind if I sit here?" and from there if she's interested it becomes evident and if she's not it's not even awkward.)

Plus I like women that can read and women that love coffee.

I used to meet a lot of women through my friends.. then I ****ed a bunch of them and my friends started putting the clamps down, unless they had a friend who really need to get laid... then they wheeled her my direction (this was my entire method during college; I had a web of casual female friends I NEVER even flirted with and it made for constant, easy booty, especially 'cuz as one chick I had a one-night stand with told my friend "He even made me pancakes in the morning and helped me leave through his window!")

[Boisdevie]

I do it via dating websites - brilliant way of meeting people because you can chat with them before you get to meet them. But some people do lie a bit about themselves - in terms of their age of physique.

[Gratedwasabi]

I do it via dating websites - brilliant way of meeting people because you can chat with them before you get to meet them. But some people do lie a bit about themselves - in terms of their age of physique.

I tried this a few times with horrible luck. I honestly wonder if it isn't the US vs. Europe, thing, though. I kept encountering stuck up women that were looking for EXACTLY a,b,c,d,e,f,g,h,i and if you weren't dotted on the i you were a no go.

[Boisdevie]

Some ads on dating websites both in the UK and France are like that - some women seem to think it's a pick list and often they spoil things by saying what they don't want! But on the whole, both dating in the UK and France has been a positive experience. Met my last two GFs via the net and my current GF is absolutely lovely - so it can work.

[OldMenRock]

Bookstores are great. Or our dog walking (animal lovers are nice). If you don't own a dog, walk the neighbour's dog. They'll love you for it. Avoid dating services. The women there tend to be just as desperate as you are. Would you date yourself at this stage?

[Regnent]

While I was -never- a ladies man, this is what I've seen;
It's not so much the place, it's you, and them (her, whatever).
Is there eye contact, glances, etc?
Can you strike up a conversation?
Are you afraid to walk upto a lady, say, 'Hey, I'm X, what's your name?'

If your intention is to go fishing, you need to be comfortable with the fact it's going to be a fair bit of trial and error. You might get rejected 5 times for everyone that gives you the time at least. If you're struggling with that idea, then you need to pick places -you- are the most comfortable.
If you're prepared to take some shots to your ego, you can pick them up anywhere.

[erik]

Thank you for the replies

My options for meeting women has quickly narrowed down as of late, mostly due to work. Time to grow a pair