I'm in a funny situation. I've been friends with an older man (he's 17 yrs older) since the beginning of the year. At the time he was living with a girlfriend but they didn't have much of a sexual relationship. He and I liked to hang out and go to pubs together yada yada. After a few months we became physical and he would stay at my place or we'd get a hotel for the night.
HIs "girlfriend" found out and kicked him out and since he had no where to go, he moved in with me. He lost his job and I've been providing for him since.
About 2 months or so ago, he stopped sleeping with me. I've tried to turn him on, tease him but he acts completely disinterested. Then 3 weeks ago he runs into his first girlfriend from high school on Facebook. They talked on the phone all night and the next afternoon he tried to play me for a fool. He said he had a friend that was going to be in town and asked if she needed a place to stay, could she stay at my place. So I said ok. He was on the phone with her and he hands me his cell and she asked me to be her "wingman". At first I didn't know what the heck she was talking about.
Well she comes over, I'm dumb enough to make them dinner, clean up after them....
I go to bed and they stay up all night and around 5 in the morning when I'm getting up to go to work, I hear them in the next room having sex. I'm so PO'd and livid that I threw away all the leftover food I'd made for dinner, tossed his beer and took his pack of smokes.
When he got up around 10 he called me and wanted to know why I threw away all the food and I told him I was working and didnt have time to talk. Well, he told the other woman that I was mad and that it'd be a good idea if she left before I got home.
I found out the password to his facebook and had been reading messages between them that she had fallen in love with him again and wanted him to move in with her and marry her.
I decided to tell her that he's a cheater and has never been able to keep a steady relationship and she pretended to have my back and be all buddy buddy to me.. When she brought up the marriage thing, he stopped calling/facebooking her.
Well, he's started calling her again. I know he talks smack about me then denies it to my face. I monitor who calls whom because he's on my calling plan and I pay the bills. I know he wants to keep sleeping with her while living with me and having me support him. *I* want him to stop talking to her.
I realize that he is pulling the same crap with me as he has with all of his other girlfriends. People at a bar downtown that he frequents has told me plenty of colorful stories about him and I know how he works, but it doesn't change the fact that I kind of love him and don't want to let him go. I miss the sex and the intimacy, he just treats me like a roommate now and it ticks me off.
I'm peeved and don't know how to handle this. He denies that he has any feelings for her other than friendship, but I know he's a horndog and wants his cake and eat it too..
I feel like I'm turning into a jealous, possessive beotch and I've NEVER been that way before.