please take the time to read my story and help out. i would appreciate it thanks
I met a guy in college about one month ago. We hit it off really great and spent almost every day together just hanging out and getting to know each other. I told him i was a virgin on the second date and he was very supportive of it. We we physical most of the time we spent together but never had sex. He told me he wanted to but respected that I wanted a relationship before I did it. We talked a little about having a relationship later on and he said he could definitely see himself dating me and he was excited for the future with me but he just didn't want to jump into a relationship now and he was scared.
Him and his ex broke up about 6 months ago after being together for 2 1/2 years.
About a week and a half ago, we had sex. It was a mistake on my part and I was caught up in the moment. After we had sex, we didn't talk anymore about being serious and just went with the flow. We texted every day like usual and he asked me on another day date for later in the week. Then, about 3 days later, everything changed.
He stopped making effort to contact me or call me back. I panicked to say the least and called him twice the next day and left him a text message.
He finally texted me back the next day making up an excuse that he didn't have his phone.
He said everything was fine but i could tell it wasn't. i asked him if having sex changed anything for him and he said that it did not and he was sorry for making me feel like he ignored me. later on he sent another text that said "i don't want to hurt you"
I replied with "what do you mean? do you still feel the same way about me?" he never responded.
i gave him another text later that day and said that we need to talk. he never responded. i finally freaked out and told him that i was going to come over there where he was and talk if he won't answer back. that scared him into answering and he said we could meet up later that night.
He came over and i pretty much had to force it out of him that he didn't really want a relationship and he didn't know what happened. He couldn't explain much. He also said he was feeling depressed right now.
i texted him later than night and asked him what he wanted from me. did he want things to go back to normal or did he want space? he said "i dont really know what i need right now. it sucks trying to figure it out" so i just told him i would give him his space and he said "im sorry i feel like ****"
so thats pretty much the whole story. We haven't contacted each other for about a week now
I am all for giving him his space to figure things out but i wanted to know if it would be appropriate for me to send him a text or email later on to explain why i acted so needy. i do not usually act like that and i would like him to know
also do you think he was just using me for sex and then ran when he got what he wanted? he really seemed genuine the entire time
thanks for your advice