This is sort of a two-part post. My ex and I had a pretty clean split about 2 months ago, but there was a possibility of reconciliation - But that became a problem when I found out she got a new boyfriend almost immediately after the break-up.
I went NC with my ex for a month, and throughout this time she contacted me a few times, but I'd put off actually talking to her, preferring to wait until the month of NC was up and I had worked on moving on and not being an emotional wreck.
Once I began talking to her again, she told me about all these plans she had for the future. She had always been complacent with herself and her surroundings, but now that we split it seems like she wants to move to a new city every day, or get a different hairstyle, or go to such and such a school, and then changing what she wants her major to be every week. She seems very passionate about these ideas at the time, but since she changes her mind about everything so much she can never commit to anything. I also noticed that a lot of these changes seem to be reactionary to me, and it's almost like she's doing the opposite of what I liked about her, or doing things not in her nature to spite me.
Likewise, her new boyfriend is almost the exact opposite of me, and it seems like he's an influence on her ideas. I had read that when an ex gets a new partner right after a break-up, it's a sign that they're having problems moving on and need that push, and having a new partner that's the opposite in every way of the old partner is a sure sign of this. Their relationship also seems to be moving 10 times faster than ours did, and it seems to be reaching the same stage of maturity where they're already talking about moving in with one another.
My ex and I were together for over 2 years and were a huge part of one another's lives, with her needing more than I needed her, it seemed (During one period of about a year, I was literally the only person she had in her life when she moved to a new town).
So here are my questions:
1) It was strange that she seemingly moved on so quickly. Is all of this indecisiveness and the fact that she has a new boyfriend mean that she was very hurt and still thinking about me and needed that extra push to get over it?
2) She also told me her parents still talk about me every day, she still brings me up in conversations, and she still wears jewelry and clothes I bought her when she goes out (I, on the other hand, got rid of anything she bought me or vaguely reminded me of her). She's also invited me over to hang out quite a bit (Never accepted, though). Does this mean that she still might have feelings for me?
3) I've been working on moving on, by working on myself both mentally and physically, and enjoying the single life by going out, having fun, and meeting new girls. We've talked on webcam and she's said multiple times how good I look with my new wardrobe and the weight I've lost, and that she's really impressed by how I've improved my career in the past 2 months. I'm hooked on the idea of seeing her and trying to work things out in the next month or two. Based on all of this information, do you think she's still interested and that I have a chance, or should I just give it up and move on completely?